Hello DJ's and practitioners of the Game(and this site).
I'm in my early 20's and I'm dead set on becoming better with women and becoming more of a social guy that people look to and want to talk with. Unfortunately, those things are not happening now and they won't overnight.
I'm probably not wired to be the dominant guy that gets to bang a lot of women, but that is who I want to be. I'll give you a little background from here.
I tried to get better with women before and it just raised my anxiety, killed my nerves, and I didn't get much better, and I rarely had fun chasing women. I'd almost always get rejected, and if not that, the girls who gave me their number made some excuse not to meet up(I know what that means)
I'm an easy-going guy but I have problems being overly nice and letting things slide. For girls, this means that I want to tease them about something, but I don't want to risk being a prick and saying something stupid. So it enda up being nice and cordial talk that may get me a phone number, but rarely anything else. I wouldn't say anything if they started texting while talking with me. It doesn't work! So my true personality, which is funny and a little abrasive, never really comes out.
I don't feel comfortable letting a girl know that I'm hitting on her. I'll talk to them, and I'm working on getting over the fear of talking to them, but I'm clueless about what to say, and I'll just say random stuff that tends to go nowhere, and I don't feel comfortable hitting on them anyways, so the conversation dies. Approaching a girl makes me so nervous, it gives me this cold feeling and I hesitate a lot before doing it. And I've been rejected so many times, I feel like why would this change if it keeps happening?
I do have my hobbies and things I do and work hard on. Playing guitar, learning languages, and working out are a couple of them.
That said, what should I do to get over my problems and finally get good with women and be a dominant social person men look to?
I'm in my early 20's and I'm dead set on becoming better with women and becoming more of a social guy that people look to and want to talk with. Unfortunately, those things are not happening now and they won't overnight.
I'm probably not wired to be the dominant guy that gets to bang a lot of women, but that is who I want to be. I'll give you a little background from here.
I tried to get better with women before and it just raised my anxiety, killed my nerves, and I didn't get much better, and I rarely had fun chasing women. I'd almost always get rejected, and if not that, the girls who gave me their number made some excuse not to meet up(I know what that means)
I'm an easy-going guy but I have problems being overly nice and letting things slide. For girls, this means that I want to tease them about something, but I don't want to risk being a prick and saying something stupid. So it enda up being nice and cordial talk that may get me a phone number, but rarely anything else. I wouldn't say anything if they started texting while talking with me. It doesn't work! So my true personality, which is funny and a little abrasive, never really comes out.
I don't feel comfortable letting a girl know that I'm hitting on her. I'll talk to them, and I'm working on getting over the fear of talking to them, but I'm clueless about what to say, and I'll just say random stuff that tends to go nowhere, and I don't feel comfortable hitting on them anyways, so the conversation dies. Approaching a girl makes me so nervous, it gives me this cold feeling and I hesitate a lot before doing it. And I've been rejected so many times, I feel like why would this change if it keeps happening?
I do have my hobbies and things I do and work hard on. Playing guitar, learning languages, and working out are a couple of them.
That said, what should I do to get over my problems and finally get good with women and be a dominant social person men look to?
