"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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i want honest opinions on mystery method

BongDuy

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So i've read the game twice, and am revisiting the Magic Bullet, and i was wondering what anyone else thought about it? When i first discovered the book i was in highschool and didn't really understand it. after about a dozen of trial and errors over the years, ive learned that some of this stuff is becoming more clear.

What I want to know is what you guys think about the method. I look at the steps, such as opening, transitioning, attracting ( or getting some interests), qualifying, etc, and they make sense to me, right? they give a basic walkthrough, or a goal, in each interaction, of what you should try to do.


Thoughts?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Mystery method is based on being fake.

He knows a lot about human nature, and that's about all you should take from it imho.

I have only read parts of it though. There's a lot of bulls*it in the book, but also a lot of useful info.
 
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Chamber36 said:
Mystery method is based on being fake.
That's about it.

I think the Mystery Method is most effective for people who would rather be Mystery than themselves. It's not absolute garbage and I've gotten some of his stuff to work before, but think about what it's called.... it's "The MYSTERY Method".... it's his stuff.

You would be better served by defining your own inner game and constructing an outer game based on that rather than memorizing a bunch of routines and other gambits. I've never met a girl who was willing to go home with me because I could do a coin trick or some kind of mentalist trick like Style's 4 questions routine. Mystery was a magician so that stuff appealed to him. I'm not a magician, and even though I like the idea of slights of hand and think they're interesting, I wasn't congruent with the stuff. And only you will be able to find out what you will be congruent with.
 

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DJ philosophy promoted on sosuave is totally different from pick-up artistry.

PUA's like Mystery will tell you to learn lines, magic tricks, and script everything out like you're some actor.

Don Juans strive to improve themselves from the inside so it's more natural.

Since this is sosuave and not a PUA forum, you'll find most people here prefer the Don Juan philosophy.
 

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There is some value in it in terms of outlying the framework for social interactions. Don't follow it dogmatically though, or else you'll turn into a social robot/nerd. There are a good amount of key principles to learn and use.

As for the "fake" part, that only applies if guys are using the EXAMPLES that he writes word for word. He outlines a specific scenario, then gives some possible responses. Where guys go wrong is they repeat those responses verbatim, and it's incongruent because you don't normally say sh*t like "Oh my god, you have the prettiest eyes. May I touch them?"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Honestly, I think the Mystery Method is outdated, not that it's entirely obsolete, but there are many programs out there with a lot of ones that could be more suited for you. The important thing is to find something that YOU like and works for YOU.
 

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Chamber36 said:
Mystery method is based on being fake.
yeah, you are right in this. when i made the first post, i didn't really take into consideration his style and how he teaches them. What i mean by that is that i didn't read his material and think " oh, im going to peacock with a fuzzy hat, and do magic tricks to get laid". I was just interesting in the outline of the social interaction with a woman.
 

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It's not based on being fake, it's based on being an "entertainer."
 

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Well I dig the things he says about silverback gorillas.

For example that the female will sit behind the silverback with her back towards him, and wait for him to approach. That's basically how it goes in the club.

There's plenty of info there that'll help you analyse situations. The whole vocabulary with words like qualify, DHV/DLV, AMOG, will help u see social interactions in a new light. It's 'The Game' that helped me see the game more as a game though. It's really like dungeons and dragons from 'The Game''s point of view. With a bunch of stages that you need to get through.

Mystery's viewpoints that women are attracted to the tribal leader are also very very helpful. There's a lot of controversy whether it's necessary to be Alpha. I think it's best to be the AMOG. The AMOG isn't always a brutish loudmouth.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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