"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I want her back..

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Okay boys, so my last thread was about her saying some **** about me. I confronted her about it last night and it completely backfired in my face. We started talking about that and then she got into the whole speech where she can't believe I did a girl on vacation (even though we were on a break) and every time I think about it gets me madder and madder. So we ended up taking a break so she can straighten out her "emotions"...Now I don't liek this...I still like this girl so FUC**N MUCH so I can't let her get away from me. HOW CAN I GET HER TO COME BACK TO ME
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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i am me

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why does she know u banged another girl? that was a bad move if u let her know...
 

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I am with "I am me" she should have never know about other women. And second of all, if u really like her or even love her, then u should not let her go. Dont go and appologize for banging another chik or for saying bad ****, Just take her somewhere nice, like a a nice dinner and sex. Or invite her to ur crib light the candles, put some Rod Stewart clasics, and make out. Remember make out after a nice dinner:D
 

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nono, i didn't tell her...everyoen in my school knew and she jsut found out from everyone else. once i knew that she knew i told her so it looked like i was coming clean....and she brought this up...so what shoudl i do? give her space? try gettin back immediately? wait for her to be ready?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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high school drama!

deny it.. if she ask tell her their making it up
 

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its too late, and shes the most naiive girl in the school so she believes EVERYTHING that she's told. She told me she didn't care about it but 2 days ago she told me online that everytime she thinks about it she gets madder and madder and its driving her away from me and she needs some time to get her feelings straightened out....WTF can I do? I NEED her
 

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Don't call her, Don't answer her calls, Cut off contact from her until she comes begging for you!
 

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yea but ignoring her calls woudl give her the impression that i want NOTHING to do with her and she'll just move on....and let me add that i am going to prom with this girl still...but i need her by my side every day i just feel like a completley diffrent person w/o her
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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NoNoNoNoNo. Having her think you've forgotten about her is a GOOD THING. Stop talking to her and wait for her to come back to YOU. If you try to chase her you'll push her farther away.
 

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Seriously man, now is a good time to go over the "Kill that Desperation!" post in the Bible. You're getting too worried about this. You don't NEED her. Remember that.
 

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girlsarecrazy said:
Don't call her, Don't answer her calls, Cut off contact from her until she comes begging for you!

Don't do this cuz you will hammer the nails in the cofin if you do this. the last thing you need is for her to think that you don't give a flying F*** and that is why you are not communicating and probably running around with another girl.

try being honest with her and telling her what you feel without coming across as wimpy/needy.
 

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wavejams007 said:
Don't do this cuz you will hammer the nails in the cofin if you do this. the last thing you need is for her to think that you don't give a flying F*** and that is why you are not communicating and probably running around with another girl.

try being honest with her and telling her what you feel without coming across as wimpy/needy.
i was going to wait a little while as we started this break on wednesday...but how can i do that w/o sounding needy?
 

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plan it todd


That's all you can do.



Just remember, in the end, you don't "need" her.

You need to find yourself, IN yourself, not a girl.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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toddC said:
i was going to wait a little while as we started this break on wednesday...but how can i do that w/o sounding needy?
Well, what are your priorities? Where do you place girls, and where do you place yourself? Answer this and PM me, and I might just be able to help. I will be thinking of a fix for you, although I can only 100% promise good, solid advice.
 
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