"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I want a crush I feel like I settle too quickly

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My ex left me high and dry. I treated her like a queen and gave her everything even though I was a bit of a psychopath towards the end. Usually chicks leave guys because they feel like they are better than the guy but this was not the case. I Literally replaced her in one week with a hotter chick, and have plates I'm spinning where every single chick is hotter than her. I don't think she is even in the top 25 chicks I've ever ****ed. She's an 8 at best. I think she knows this too. The entire time we dated I always felt like I was better than her and I was settling but I did love her. She always used to say that she felt like I looked down at her and the truth is I kind of did sometimes lol.

Anyways, it taught me an important lesson. I absolutely believe in order for a relationship to truly work a man has to date a woman out of his league. Why? Because if a girl thinks your better than her she will start to resent you for your lack of game and inability to pull a better chick. If your a 6/10 and your with some dime piece, she respects you for being able to pull her. She respects you for going for what you wanted to.

I see quite a bit of good looking guys settling with mediocre women, and get cheated on them and burnt by them. And I get it, you like the admiration and praise. You like feeling like the prize. But fellas, this only lasts for so long. I would go as far as to say that I would rather have a chick fall for me that didn't find me initially attractive that was out of my league. If it's easy I don't want her. If your gonna get dumped by a chick fellas make sure she was worth trying to keep. The relationships that seemed to work out the best for me, where the woman respected me the most, were from chicks that didn't go for me so easily.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My ex left me high and dry. I treated her like a queen and gave her everything even though I was a bit of a psychopath towards the end. Usually chicks leave guys because they feel like they are better than the guy but this was not the case. I Literally replaced her in one week with a hotter chick, and have plates I'm spinning where every single chick is hotter than her. I don't think she is even in the top 25 chicks I've ever ****ed. She's an 8 at best. I think she knows this too. The entire time we dated I always felt like I was better than her and I was settling but I did love her. She always used to say that she felt like I looked down at her and the truth is I kind of did sometimes lol.

Anyways, it taught me an important lesson. I absolutely believe in order for a relationship to truly work a man has to date a woman out of his league. Why? Because if a girl thinks your better than her she will start to resent you for your lack of game and inability to pull a better chick. If your a 6/10 and your with some dime piece, she respects you for being able to pull her. She respects you for going for what you wanted to.

I see quite a bit of good looking guys settling with mediocre women, and get cheated on them and burnt by them. And I get it, you like the admiration and praise. You like feeling like the prize. But fellas, this only lasts for so long. I would go as far as to say that I would rather have a chick fall for me that didn't find me initially attractive that was out of my league. If it's easy I don't want her. If your gonna get dumped by a chick fellas make sure she was worth trying to keep. The relationships that seemed to work out the best for me, where the woman respected me the most, were from chicks that didn't go for me so easily.
The bolded part is the only reason why she left you. The rest of your post about her looks vs. your looks is irrelevant.
 

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Physical attraction is only a small part. Either person being too far above or below is usually bad. Being on the same level and connecting over something more meaningful has a better chance at longevity in my opinion.

Focusing on the superficial and not properly connecting as humans is why so many people fail at romantic relationships.
 

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The bolded part is the only reason why she left you. The rest of your post about her looks vs. your looks is irrelevant.
Probably a combination of that and I think she left cause I was awful in the sack with her towards the end....Couldn’t get hard with her 2-3 times towards the end. Moment she left and I started banging other chicks, my problems in the sack went away. I loved her but I just didn’t want to **** the **** out of her. Was more of a companionship thing imo. You have to want to bang the **** out of your girl for it to work imo
 
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