"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I used a compliment opener...

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And it worked. Yea, I heard how AFC complimenting is but it opened her up.

Me: Hi, how are you doing
Her: Kept walking ignoring me
Me: Alright just wanted to let you know I've been on vacation for about a week and you're by far the prettiest girl I've seen during my time here.
Her: That's so sweet
(We exchanged names and the conversation begins......)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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And...?

So you talked to a girl? Congratulations....:eek:
 

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some say you can only open up nines and above with negs. or what not. i once opened a nine by saying, "i think you are so... beautiful" and it worked. like david d preaches, anything will work as long as you say it the right way
 

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Originally posted by DaKidS3
And...?

So you talked to a girl? Congratulations....:eek:
Why do you have to be a jack-ass man?

I just heard often not to use compliment openers and it worked. So I'm kinda confused as to y the DJ bible says not too.
 

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Originally posted by john_1234
some say you can only open up nines and above with negs. or what not. i once opened a nine by saying, "i think you are so... beautiful" and it worked. like david d preaches, anything will work as long as you say it the right way
Ok, so nines and above open w/ neg hits? And anything below compliment openers?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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entering the 4th quarter....
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i serously think alot of people on here are childish and feel they need to act like jack-ass to there fellow don juan brothers...we shouldn't be talking to each other like were talking to a girl,



b*tches do that

but yea good job on the opener --- seriously!

theres nothing wrong with being a nice guy because...

if you wanna get laid FVck a Slut and be a jackA**

but if you want a GF then be a nice Guy

plus i noticed girls re-act different to a guy who uses different words to pick them up

your pretty---your Hot

Hey how are you--how you DoiN??

Hey, wait up what's your name?-- A BABY come ova hea whats Ya name??

think i could have your number? -- Hey baby lemme get them digits

same meaning big difference
 

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Originally posted by Badmannaz
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
i serously think alot of people on here are childish and feel they need to act like jack-ass to there fellow don juan brothers...we shouldn't be talking to each other like were talking to a girl,



b*tches do that

but yea good job on the opener --- seriously!

theres nothing wrong with being a nice guy because...

if you wanna get laid FVck a Slut and be a jackA**

but if you want a GF then be a nice Guy
lol, tnx I'll keep that one in mind
 

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Originally posted by Badmannaz
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
i serously think alot of people on here are childish and feel they need to act like jack-ass to there fellow don juan brothers...we shouldn't be talking to each other like were talking to a girl,



b*tches do that

but yea good job on the opener --- seriously!

theres nothing wrong with being a nice guy because...

if you wanna get laid FVck a Slut and be a jackA**

but if you want a GF then be a nice Guy

plus i noticed girls re-act different to a guy who uses different words to pick them up

your pretty---your Hot

Hey how are you--how you DoiN??

Hey, wait up what's your name?-- A BABY come ova hea whats Ya name??

think i could have your number? -- Hey baby lemme get them digits

same meaning big difference
What's the difference you get from either of those different ways of saying things? I'm curious.
 

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As long as you say it out of confidence you can open with anything.

I opend a HB9 with........

Me: "Your hot we should get married"

Bla Bla Bla!!!

She was my gf for about 4 months.

Just goes to show you can say anything.
 

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Originally posted by DJ_in_making
Why do you have to be a jack-ass man?

I just heard often not to use compliment openers and it worked. So I'm kinda confused as to y the DJ bible says not too.
You didn't say anything.

So you said something to her, and you had a conversation. So what's so good about it?

Tell us more. Did you get her number, did you have sex with her...what was so good about this?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by DaKidS3
You didn't say anything.

So you said something to her, and you had a conversation. So what's so good about it?

Tell us more. Did you get her number, did you have sex with her...what was so good about this?
Do you happen to have any field reports buddy?
 

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Originally posted by DJ_in_making
Do you happen to have any field reports buddy?
Actually DakidS3 has a point. You said your compliment opener "worked". In sarging, when something "worked" it means you got her # or fclose her. If it only got a conversation with her, then you didn't really succeed.

Even getting a girl's # isn't much of a success since girls flake so much these days.
 

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yes! a number close. That's what 'it worked' means. I had a good convo w/ her afterward exchanged cell #.
 
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