"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I turn 26 this year and time is running out!

AlmostThere!

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Really depressed right now...

Thinking about paying for sex tonight although I haven't done it in 5 years.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Alle_Gory

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STFU and do something about it. First you didn't want to do anything, now you're in a rush.

Calm down. Make a plan, a simple one. Stick to it.

Start small. For example, things to do:

whiten teeth - use hydrogen peroxide as a mouthwash daily
eat healthier - more veggies and fruits in the diet, less junk food
talk to more people - make an effort to socialize more - say yes to any socializing opportunity

Boom. Make a small doable plan, stick with it for awhile and then make another one. A bigger one, then a bigger one after, and then bigger...
 

AlmostThere!

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I will start going to Yoga class twice per week and dance class once a week. I still play Dodgeball and it's a good group of people that sometimes are involved in other actvities. And I'm not going to be embarrassed to tell people "hey, I'm trying to get out more and meet people. Do you know any events coming up or cool activities?"

I think for the most part, people are generally happy to invite someone to parties and stuff if they're cool.
 

Mantis Toboggan

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AlmostThere! said:
I will start going to Yoga class twice per week and dance class once a week. I still play Dodgeball and it's a good group of people that sometimes are involved in other actvities. And I'm not going to be embarrassed to tell people "hey, I'm trying to get out more and meet people. Do you know any events coming up or cool activities?"

I think for the most part, people are generally happy to invite someone to parties and stuff if they're cool.
Great moves. I'm proud of you.

Now stop coming here telling us how depressed you are. There's nothing depressing about not having women. It just frees you up to do the cool s*** you are currently getting yourself started at.

Good stuff though.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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