"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i met this girl a while back and everything was going great but I might have accidentally taken the "playing hard to get/teasing" thing a little too far.... ive been flirting with her like crazy and teasing her etc. and getting a positive reaction but to be honest I was enjoying the chase so much that I completely put off actually asking her out and taking it further.
A mistake on my part but now I heard that she told a friend that she has just gotten tired of it and thinks that im never going to ask her out and was just being a tease or im just too shy or something. I talked to her a few times in the past two weeks and she's still friendly but she's not as flirty as she was a while back and just seems really distant now.

I guess i got a little too ****y with this one and figured she would chase me forever, is there a way too save the situation? i hesistate to ask her out now b/c her IL was very high but now that she has gotten tired of this it seems to be a lot lower, basically I would like to get her IL back up to where it was and this time take action immediately.
Possible? If so what should I do? Back off for a while? Keep talking to her?
 

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Why don't you say something like, "Hey, what's the deal? When are you going to ask me out?" Sorta turning the tables as though you expected her to do it. Might work.
 
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Nothing is more discouraging to a woman who is interested in a guy than having him send all the signals and signs of interest and then not take action. Sounds like her discouragement shifted into being disgusted and just giving up.
 
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Yeah i know, but i like being chased.... but lesson learned which is the important thing. I'll try the table turning thing and if it doesn't work well my bad, she'll live.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by KillingTime
Yeah i know, but i like being chased.... but lesson learned which is the important thing. I'll try the table turning thing and if it doesn't work well my bad, she'll live.
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I wouldn't advise doing the table turning thing unless you want her to really dislike you. You'd be better off just saying "Hey, I meant to ask you out a month ago but was having so much fun flirting with you that I didn't get around to it. Wanna go "insert date idea here"?

If you try to turn the tables it will seem to her that you are placing the blame for you dragging your feet onto her...and she's already upset over it. The last thing you want to do is try to make it look like it's her fault you were a bonehead...it'll just make her angry.
 
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