I told my mom, bad mistake.

[navyseal2101]

My mom always nags me about GF's and trys to give me advice on how to pick up girls. I just recently got "in" with an older girl, who is technicly illigal. I told my mom about her and now she constantly telling me about how crazy the girl is and stuff. How should I calm her down. She wants to meet the girl and everything and I KNOW that wouldnt end well. I know now to just keep my mouth shut. Ugh if I only had a time machine. PLEASE HELP ME ASAP!!!!! I feel like my life is falling apart now.

 

[navyseal2101]

ther idea, mabye I could tell my mom were done and then have a secret relationship, or is that a bad idea. Ok, im getting more replies on a Misc. part of the Gamespot forums.

 

[Dark Chivalry]

How old are you both?

 

[navyseal2101]

How old are you both?

Eh 16 and 19... I know it may not seem good.

 

[Dark Chivalry]

Not immoral, but illegal, so yeah, your mom could put her in jail if she knew you had sex. What exactly does your mom know.

 

[navyseal2101]

My mom knows that we are going out. I lied and said she lives far away when i could walk to her house in 2 mins. She dosent know my parents know yet, but ill have to talk to her asap. Also we havent had sex yet. On Gamespot they said to dump her.

 

[Dark Chivalry]

No sex = no crime

Make it clear to your mother that you are not sexing this girl and not planning to do so.

What exactly did your mom say?

 

[navyseal2101]

She said that cheerleaders give it up easy and its illigal for me to go out with her, which I explained to her isnt true. Shes just sceptical how I got her, and im not about to bring up these forums. She said she wants to meet the girl and ask her if shes going to have sex with me, i told my mom we havent done anything yet.

 

[Dark Chivalry]

Okay, in that case, no need to panic and do anything rash, but take the oppertunity to show you are a man and can be trusted with responsibility.

If you say something along the lines of: "I understand that you are worried when I go out with an older girl, what exactly are you fearing will happen?"

Then stay calm and listen. She'll probably start talking about the girl being easy, fears of you getting her pregnant, the girl introducing you to booze, drugs, you neglecting school. Remain calm, don't raise your voice, stay in control. Tell her you understand her concerns but you are a responsible young man and you would not let a girl influence you to do unwise things, you know school is important, that having sex can get a girl pregnant and you don't want to do that. Even if you met an easy women, you have morals of your own. Then let mama know you are dating this girl in a friendly way and not sleeping with her.

 

[navyseal2101]

Dude, that could really work. Thanks ALOT. I'll tell my parents when they get home.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Im pretty sure 16 is the age of consent. Start introducing your mom to a bunch of girls you meet so shell maybe chill the fvck out.

 

[navyseal2101]

Well 16 is the age of consent but in PA anybody over 17 cant do anything with somebody under 18. And also she didnt even know I talked to girls so I guess this wasnt the best way to start things out. Thanks for the advice.

 

[ItWasntMe]

Okay, in that case, no need to panic and do anything rash, but take the oppertunity to show you are a man and can be trusted with responsibility.

If you say something along the lines of: "I understand that you are worried when I go out with an older girl, what exactly are you fearing will happen?"

Then stay calm and listen. She'll probably start talking about the girl being easy, fears of you getting her pregnant, the girl introducing you to booze, drugs, you neglecting school. Remain calm, don't raise your voice, stay in control. Tell her you understand her concerns but you are a responsible young man and you would not let a girl influence you to do unwise things, you know school is important, that having sex can get a girl pregnant and you don't want to do that. Even if you met an easy women, you have morals of your own. Then let mama know you are dating this girl in a friendly way and not sleeping with her.

^^ very true. I always do something along those lines whenever I'm in trouble and it has worked 100% of the time. The trick is to let her vent and say whatever the hell she wants without you becoming emotional (no matter what she says do not show much emotion). Talk in a calm voice and explain how you are mature and you know what you are doing. After that I usually convince whoever it is that they are paranoid about me doing whatever but I do that for fun lol (I'm trying to cut down though. It's unfair to others).

 

[Dark Chivalry]

^^ very true. I always do something along those lines whenever I'm in trouble and it has worked 100% of the time. The trick is to let her vent and say whatever the hell she wants without you becoming emotional (no matter what she says do not show much emotion). Talk in a calm voice and explain how you are mature and you know what you are doing. After that I usually convince whoever it is that they are paranoid about me doing whatever but I do that for fun lol (I'm trying to cut down though. It's unfair to others).

This is actually good practice to get under your belt, when you are older this is the way you can deal with your woman if she is mad at you. A mad woman just wants to nag and whine for a few minutes and then have you step in calm and collected and take care of business.

By the way, it is not that smart of the mother to say cheerleaders are easy. It may be mean as a deterrant, but to most teenage boys it would sound more like a recommendation. I know that when I was 17, I'd fuk a crocodile if someone would hold it down for me.

 

[navyseal2101]

^Haahah about the crocodile. I talked to her. She seems cool about it kind of. I told her that were are just friends really. Shes alot more calm now she just keeps bringing it up and I tell her the same thing. In a week she'll get over it. Thanks alot again.

 

[mpimpin]

Well 16 is the age of consent but in PA anybody over 17 cant do anything with somebody under 18. And also she didnt even know I talked to girls so I guess this wasnt the best way to start things out. Thanks for the advice.

WHAT!! I'm in PA for vacation right now. I knew the age of consent was 16 but didn't know that other part. Thanks for the heads up.

As to your post I was in a similar situation when I was 16. I got all the speeches from my mom. I'm still getting speeches years later. I'm not saying be mean or cruel, but I must admit most of the time I just say something random and shocking. The Speech on girls having STD's she gave me years ago.....My reply was that before I have sex my partner and I get tested. ... Not sure if she really believed it but i didn't get that speech again.

 

[jesusrules]

f*ck thats a tough situation. Dude just think if you have sex with her and your mom finds out shell be going to jail. so its up to you is it worth it? dude I would just probably say screw it, its to risky. find a chick thats close to your age. So that you wont have to be worrying about stuff like that.

 

[TheVirtualMind]

On Gamespot they said to dump her.

You are asking for advice on a girl on a site that deals with video games? Of course they will say "dump her." You have more Cyber Don Juans on gaming sites then you have in internet cafes!

Dark Chivarly said it best so far...Sit them down, talk to them. Parents, for the most part, look out for their kids best interest. Remember, they lived life before you. I'm not saying take their entire advice, but atleast find out why they don't feel comfortable.

 

[Dark Chivalry]

^Haahah about the crocodile. I talked to her. She seems cool about it kind of. I told her that were are just friends really. Shes alot more calm now she just keeps bringing it up and I tell her the same thing. In a week she'll get over it. Thanks alot again.

You are most welcome. And well done!

Now the next thing is to discuss the issue of age with the girl. Look up the law on the internet and find out what the laws are in your state. Then you know what you can and cant do and you can be the man with the plan.

 

[navyseal2101]

Yea thatsthe thing, we can technicly just go out. We are legal intitled to nothing w/o risk of corruption of a minor. We can probably do stuff anyway though, just really risky, but hey, it could add to the excitment, or is that a bad idea.