Exactly.Teej said:You asked for the date, you pay; that's how I look at it.
"Shall we pay" not a good question
"I think you should pay" worse response.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Exactly.Teej said:You asked for the date, you pay; that's how I look at it.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Good advice. You reminded me of a favorite line.persistent exaction said:Forget the DATES.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
apusislaya said:Women are getting away with murder.
LookTowardsTheFuture said:You shouldn't be going on a DINNER date in the first place.
Go on an ACTION dates. Please take a look at the DJ Bible!
You must find out about her before you pay any bills for her. Women like this, as with nice guys, need a swift kick in the ass!
DonGorgon said:Yeh cause men are very desperate due to the shortage of women and have become more willing to treat women extra special in hopes of sniffing the vagina.