"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think there might be something fishy going on...

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My girlfriend texted me today asking if I wanted to do anything tonight. I told her I was going out with a few friends and told her it's cool if she comes. to which she responds some old 'friend' she hasn't hung out with in ages wanted to hang out today. I tell her its cool if she wants to hang out with him (secretly I'm thinking "wtf!!") to this she responds:

'Uh nty. hes sum1 from my past that ive had alotta bad memories with. i just want to catch up on **** and hang out with him only 4 a lil bit.. i def want to go with u. whos gonna be there or how many ppl? cuz I prolly dnt know any of em lol'

My best guess is that its her ex-boyfriend that attempted suicide when she broke up with him...but idk why she wouldn't just say that.

My question is, what should be my response/attitude towards this when I pick her up tonight? should i ask who it is?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Gustav Yavo

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umm the question is "why would she wanna meet up and shoot the sh!t with someone shes had bad memories about?"
its of course possible that its nothing, but to me it seems really dodgy and doesnt really say much, like shes trying to hide somethin...
 
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Blackhole105 said:
My girlfriend texted me today asking if I wanted to do anything tonight. I told her I was going out with a few friends and told her it's cool if she comes. to which she responds some old 'friend' she hasn't hung out with in ages wanted to hang out today. I tell her its cool if she wants to hang out with him (secretly I'm thinking "wtf!!") to this she responds:

'Uh nty. hes sum1 from my past that ive had alotta bad memories with. i just want to catch up on **** and hang out with him only 4 a lil bit.. i def want to go with u. whos gonna be there or how many ppl? cuz I prolly dnt know any of em lol'

My best guess is that its her ex-boyfriend that attempted suicide when she broke up with him...but idk why she wouldn't just say that.

My question is, what should be my response/attitude towards this when I pick her up tonight? should i ask who it is?
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Drop it homeboy, let it go.
 
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Gustav Yavo

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if somethin similar to this happens again sometime soon then i would start to press for answers....
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She said she wants to hang out with you that night. I don't see a problem here. Tell her if she wants to hang with you to meet up after she sees her friend. I don't see the big deal here...
 
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yeah as long as she goes home with you i guess right? on its face it is sorta ****ty she wants to catch up with an ex then she makes it ****tier by skimming on the details. you cant press her on the details as you will come off as a control freak chump but she failed in this spot when she didnt come to you with the details. that was the test here.

now as to your response...if her failing this test is a deal breaker for you then walk. if not then let it go but dont forget about it and begin to start to note a pattern. if the pattern becomes something you arent cool with then bounce.
 
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