I think my LTR is cheating!

[alvinkels]

Some months now I have seen some changes is the attitude of my woman. I haven't confronted her because I didn't want to come of desperate. She has already told that she wanted us to break I talked her out of it several times but I think now she in implementing it. She doesn't send random pictures as she used to and when I send some they are either ignored or somehow criticized like why didn't you cut her down more and stuffs like that.

I did some few test to test her interest level. Twice, I didn't text or call for like a week and she didn't either. In all situations I broke the no contact. When we text the conversation is dry.

I saw this video this morning

The video shared light on what I have been suspecting... yesterday I asked why she is acting off of late and she said that she just basically tells everything so she doesn't know what I am talking about so what is it that I am talking about. I didn't want to come needy and desperate so I just told her not to mind. (I had already made up my mind)

I want to go one month without talking to her in the sense that if she doesn't reach out then I am not going to either and that's how the relationship is going to be henceforth.

 

[Non Juan]

Don't try and stop a girl if she wants a break, it means her interest level has been going down long before she actually announced the news to you and it's probably worse than you thought. The best hope of getting her back is just to ghost her and go and get on with your life. Don't be moody, angry, or bitter, just stop making contact with her and go and game other women to get yourself back in the swing of things.

If she gets in touch, and asks why you haven't been texting just act like nothing has happened and say you've been busy with some things. If she wants to meet keep her emotionally at arms length for at least a month, be completely non-needy, ****y/funny etc. Let her come to you first, and let her back into your life, slowly.

The chances are though that it will be easier to meet new girls at this point, rather than try and save this relationship. But if you think she's worth it then just disappear and wait until she contacts you first.

 

[LTG71]

She has already told that she wanted us to break I talked her out of it several times but I think now she in implementing it.

She sounds like she has already made up her mind. Rip the band-aid off and let her go. You can not negotiate desire so why waste your time trying to convince her to stay. Sucks but you are better off looking for new prospects.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Bro if a woman wants to leave you open the door for her and tell her grab her things and get out. There is no “convincing” her to stay. This relationship has long since run its course.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Sounds like she checked out weeks / months ago

No point pro longing the agony

Time to call it a day

 

[johnrambo]

I want to go one month without talking to her in the sense that if she doesn't reach out then I am not going to either and that's how the relationship is going to be henceforth.

How about stop contact forever from now on? Not one month. You already know she's gone. Find yourself another girl ASAHP.

How old is your LTR lady?

 

[Gamisch]

. She has already told that she wanted us to break I talked her out of it several times but I think now she in implementing it. She doesn't send random pictures as she used to and when I send some they are either ignored or somehow criticized like why didn't you cut her down more and stuffs like that.

Huge mistake. Its like you've managed to delay the execution, but nothing more. You are as victorious as a rehabbing junkie who manages to get a fix. Today is good, feck tomorrow. Wrong mentality.

If I were you I'd say that YOU want a break. If you even say that, perhaps straight action is the best. Pull back with the intent to leave . ALWAYS mirror her behaviour when things get complicated. Do NOT put in extra effort because it feels "logical " to chase when something "escapes" you.

You basically won the battle while you're losing the war.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

She wanted a break and you talked her out of it? That´s only going to dry her poozy even more. Like another poster said, time to rip the band aid off and start looking for better girls.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Walk away. Her respect level is cratering and when it reaches zero she will dump you

 

[parabellum]

Tell her you have accepted the fact that the relationship has come to an end. And move on.

Ironically, that (and only that move) might bring her back to you. It’s up to you what you do then, but the general consensus is just don’t look back and carry on to greener pastures.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Start talking to and bedding other females ASAP. She will sense it and react. To me she’d be dead wood that needs to go. Do the above and have fun with it. You won’t be as needy and she will pick on this.

 

[soulforge]

You can't negotiate desire my friend & trying to convince a girl to stick around is a massive mistake. She will run away even further.

I would literally stop texting her or responding to her.. You don't even have to officially break it off with her (Unless you want to) send a calling it off text (this takes balls of steal)

She might come back around further down the line when she realises grass isn't greener.

I wouldn't take her back though.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

"my woman" is an overstatement by a mile.

Take your losses, learn, move on, and realign.

PS: "talked her out of it" made me want to b**ch slap you.

 

[Realthangpoon]

Let her go and move on. Sorry OP.

 

[lgbs2004]

She's already fvcking a co-worker or three. Time to move on!

 

[alvinkels]

How about stop contact forever from now on? Not one month. You already know she's gone. Find yourself another girl ASAHP.

How old is your LTR lady?

About 5 years

 

[alvinkels]

Start talking to and bedding other females ASAP. She will sense it and react. To me she’d be dead wood that needs to go. Do the above and have fun with it. You won’t be as needy and she will pick on this.

I have already started talking to other girls and that she has no idea about but she is good and I would to keep her possibly marriage

 

[Gamisch]

I have already started talking to other girls and that she has no idea about but she is good and I would to keep her possibly marriage

*SLAP*

She isn't marriage material.

I get it tho, 5 years is quite some time. But you MUST understand that women think in excitement and fun. After 5 years its hard to keep being fun and exciting, especially when there's so much temptation nowadays.

*SLAP*

You gotta wake up. One more pro tip: do NOT get into a new relationship right away. Find ways to get your D wet, but please take some time to reflect, learn game, improve , figure out what you want ect.

Last one; *SLAP*. Now lets have a beer and chase some new bitches shall we?

 

[Solomon]

OP I got bad news for you bro but your girlfriend is getting barebacked by Tyrone

Your relationship was over months ago sir

Cheers!

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

@alvinkels what country are you in