"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I met this girl about a month ago, and she was obviously interested in me, as I am in her. Because of the timing, and because of a lack of other quality girls, I asked her to prom after knowing her for about a week. We never even had one date...I didn't even have her phone number or anything when I asked! But she said yes (of course...lol) so that part is all good.

The thing is, I bought her prom ticket, I paid the one time we went out for lunch (skipped school :D ), and I am most likely gonna pay for dinner tomorrow (prom is tomorrow). Now, this girl is genuinely into me, and she isn't some gold-digging ***** or anything, but I don't want to be always paying for things. I'm planning on getting her to pay for some stuff once all this prom BS is over (I'm not even looking forward to it anymore), but is all this paying for her going to be a problem? Have I set myself up in a bad way?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ok, what I'm trying to say is, how can I change the pattern of me paying for everything. I know, I know, I never should have started, but now that I have, how to stop it? Somehow, saying "you have to pay your own way from now on" doesn't seem to charming to me.
 
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it gets tricky sometimes...

some girls on a date wont pay its just against their principles or some ****.. ive encountered those.... what you may wanna do (after your prom ofcourse) is to just tell her that its her turn to take you out (in a playful sort of way ofcourse) from her reaction you can deduce a lot of info...

good luck..
 
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sav said:
it gets tricky sometimes...

some girls on a date wont pay its just against their principles or some ****.. ive encountered those.... what you may wanna do (after your prom ofcourse) is to just tell her that its her turn to take you out (in a playful sort of way ofcourse) from her reaction you can deduce a lot of info...

good luck..
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I had this problem 2 weeks ago with a girl i am F/dating and indicated to the girl it was her turn... I have not seen her since...LOL
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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