"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think i'm too passive..

saturos

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I have lots of friends at school and all, and i'm happy with it, but i'm noticing that given a choice, most of my friends would rather hang out with another friend.
Thinking on it, i also noticed that i tend to be the one to go up to my friends or wait for them as opposed to them trying to get my attention.
So, i'm not sure how i ought to change this, any tips?
Like i imagine if i didn't wait for a friend in the hall, i doubt he'd try to catch up to me, or visa versa. For now, at least.

Thanks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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f283000

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ok so to sum it up you are not the most popular guy around and among friends you are probably the weakest link. What do people do to become popular in high school? do you really need us to explain it to you? do you really wants us to go over the list (playing sports, joining clubs, being talkative in class, acting c&f) etc etc etc??
 

saturos

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Nah, its not quite like that.
Its hard to explain. I wouldn't really say that that is a good way of putting it.
 

jeffthechef

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this is the best solution..it's not the most popular..but it's the best..
Popularity:pointless. It can only help you get a girl or two..but honestly if they wouldn't go out with you if you weren't popular..fuk them...think of a good reason and i'll tell you why it's not...

but you say it's not really popularity..it's your status among your group of friends...this is a small matter
hunger, war, poverty..
i know those issues probably don't concern you and are not evident in daily life..but it's true..

be satisfied with your life..you don't need to wait for your friends if they don't care as to whether or not you wait..why catch up if they don't wait...be independent..live life..good company comes to those who are uneasy about compliments but happy with criticism...sort of relates...be an alpha...work on your morals...that's all that really matters..
 
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