I think im to aggresive lol

[cablecow15]

Ive had multiple girls call me a horndog , and with good reason. seeing as i now know how fickle women are ,Ive gotten good at being sexual quickly and escalating, I want to have my fun with them while i can , and i really got to where now I cant control it , I just go balls out trying to go for it. Pretty sure I scared a few off because of it , but they were defiantly not relationship material so nothing lost , I got what I wanted ... lol

But .. im afraid if I meet one id actually like to peruse ill do the same thing lol I need to show a little more restraint , anybody ever have this happen ? I mean atm its a good problem to have lol , but id like ot learn how to better control it

 

[backbreaker]

when i first met my now wife, she was one of like 4 plates i had. I really liked her and slowly but eventually we became exclusive. this took like 3-4 months to get from plate number 1 to my only plate.

now mind you, it's not like this was a s mooth process. more like, riding a bike down mt everest. she didn't like knowing i was sleeping with other girls one bit. she threatened to leave, she threatened to cut me off, etc the whole bit. but she never did, beucase she liked me and i explained to her that if she kept doing what she is doing she would be my GF sooner rather than later, I just had a process.

now this entire time, there is another dude in the picture, basically me 10 years ago. very passive, shy, reserved. he was like basically the coach that talks and **** during the time out she would call him and ***** to him about everything i did and he would say how she deserved better, thinking that she would branch swing, but basically he is just what filled her time while i was busy. she just wasn't attracted to him like that.

anyway, eventually, we start dating. a few weeks after we start dating we go on a vacation in the fall to Keeneland in Kentucky. N9ow mind you, this is my first real GF in like 4 years so I really still haven't cut off cold approach mode, i'm looking at girls, and i run itno a girl ia ctually knew and just started talking with her and my GF was so hot that she made me rent another room so that she can stay in there andc not with me. she was pissed. it's one of the few if not only time in our relationship i will admit she was 100% right, i was in the wrong.

however, once i got the message, i adjusted and a few days later all was forgotten and she was happy again.

that entire ordeal with her, with her other guy friend and with me, with me flirting with other girls right in front of her thought me a very important lesson that i will tell you now

there is no such thing as being too aggressive. a woman who likes you will forgive aggressive behavior. but passive behavior is never, ever forgiven.

AS the 48 laws of power says, enter action with boldness.

 

[cablecow15]

when i first met my now wife, she was one of like 4 plates i had. I really liked her and slowly but eventually we became exclusive. this took like 3-4 months to get from plate number 1 to my only plate.

now mind you, it's not like this was a s mooth process. more like, riding a bike down mt everest. she didn't like knowing i was sleeping with other girls one bit. she threatened to leave, she threatened to cut me off, etc the whole bit. but she never did, beucase she liked me and i explained to her that if she kept doing what she is doing she would be my GF sooner rather than later, I just had a process.

now this entire time, there is another dude in the picture, basically me 10 years ago. very passive, shy, reserved. he was like basically the coach that talks and **** during the time out she would call him and ***** to him about everything i did and he would say how she deserved better, thinking that she would branch swing, but basically he is just what filled her time while i was busy. she just wasn't attracted to him like that.

anyway, eventually, we start dating. a few weeks after we start dating we go on a vacation in the fall to Keeneland in Kentucky. N9ow mind you, this is my first real GF in like 4 years so I really still haven't cut off cold approach mode, i'm looking at girls, and i run itno a girl ia ctually knew and just started talking with her and my GF was so hot that she made me rent another room so that she can stay in there andc not with me. she was pissed. it's one of the few if not only time in our relationship i will admit she was 100% right, i was in the wrong.

however, once i got the message, i adjusted and a few days later all was forgotten and she was happy again.

that entire ordeal with her, with her other guy friend and with me, with me flirting with other girls right in front of her thought me a very important lesson that i will tell you now

there is no such thing as being too aggressive. a woman who likes you will forgive aggressive behavior. but passive behavior is never, ever forgiven.

AS the 48 laws of power says, enter action with boldness.

Wow, thank you for that , you could not be more right .

The more I think about it the more i feel like i explained it badly

basically when i used the word aggressive , i should be using sexual , with some of these girls I would touch them constantly , always grabbing ass or tits or something . so instead of hot and cold it was just hott hott hott all the time.

but after what you said , now i see that If its someone who is interested , they will either not care , or look past it , as long as its a action that's in some way assertive or dominant

 

[marmel75]

Ive had multiple girls call me a horndog , and with good reason. seeing as i now know how fickle women are ,Ive gotten good at being sexual quickly and escalating, I want to have my fun with them while i can , and i really got to where now I cant control it , I just go balls out trying to go for it. Pretty sure I scared a few off because of it , but they were defiantly not relationship material so nothing lost , I got what I wanted ... lol

But .. im afraid if I meet one id actually like to peruse ill do the same thing lol I need to show a little more restraint , anybody ever have this happen ? I mean atm its a good problem to have lol , but id like ot learn how to better control it

There is a level where you go overboard and look desperate, but its definitely better to be more sexual than less sexual. A woman will always be more likely to forgive you more for acting like a man and going for it than for acting like a scared little b!tch...

 

[cablecow15]

Ive gained a lot more than i expected to from this thread , and i appreciate the advice from the posters , this knowledge will have to be put to use soon

 

[backbreaker]

you're looking at it the wrong way.

1. if you are "aggressive" with a girl and you run her off, she doesn't like you. all you did was cut to the chase of the issue. a girl who likes you will let you will forgive your aggressive behavior but try to adjust it. you won't run off a girl who is into you by being too aggressive.

2. where do guys get this idea that Long term relationships are built on different principles than other relationships? ALL relationships, the very most fundamental aspect of them is that there is a physical and sexual attraction to them. my now wife was all over me within 30 minutes of our first date, we clicked instantly. on the 2nd date she gave me an indirect innuendo she was open to having sex if i was. now we didn't but that was.. it's complicated. let's just say advanced DJ tactics. I knew what i was doing. .we went bowling and instead of dropping her off she asked if she could see my house. that and her actions on the date couldn't be any more clearer. she liked me enough to where she wasn't going to let her not giving it up run me off.

and i mean, we communicate; she's my best friend, i love her company.. but we both still very much are attracted to each other and we sill have a lot of sex. well maybe not a lot but more than enough. if you aren't sexually comparable, if a chick is making you wait for sex, if she's using it like some trump card you need to leave anyway. you don't "earn "sex. sex is not the hotels you get in monopoly after buying 4 houses. it's not the next level in a video game. that's AFC thinking. sex is what happens when 2 people are into each other.

 

[cablecow15]

you're looking at it the wrong way.

1. if you are "aggressive" with a girl and you run her off, she doesn't like you. all you did was cut to the chase of the issue. a girl who likes you will let you will forgive your aggressive behavior but try to adjust it. you won't run off a girl who is into you by being too aggressive.

2. where do guys get this idea that Long term relationships are built on different principles than other relationships? ALL relationships, the very most fundamental aspect of them is that there is a physical and sexual attraction to them. my now wife was all over me within 30 minutes of our first date, we clicked instantly. on the 2nd date she gave me an indirect innuendo she was open to having sex if i was. now we didn't but that was.. it's complicated. let's just say advanced DJ tactics. I knew what i was doing. .we went bowling and instead of dropping her off she asked if she could see my house. that and her actions on the date couldn't be any more clearer. she liked me enough to where she wasn't going to let her not giving it up run me off.

and i mean, we communicate; she's my best friend, i love her company.. but we both still very much are attracted to each other and we sill have a lot of sex. well maybe not a lot but more than enough. if you aren't sexually comparable, if a chick is making you wait for sex, if she's using it like some trump card you need to leave anyway. you don't "earn "sex. sex is not the hotels you get in monopoly after buying 4 houses. it's not the next level in a video game. that's AFC thinking. sex is what happens when 2 people are into each other.

I think I get it now.

lately Ive gotten to where I don't feel like I need sex anymore , Its like now that it doesn't seem so hard to get its not as appealing , on the other hand sex with someone who is into me seems more appealing .

So im hoping I got it this time

1. dont worry about being to aggressive or sexual , either way if shes into you it wont matter

2. dont strive for sex , strive for something better , notches in the belt aren't important

3. Attraction > everything else

Thanks again , Its nice to hear advice from someone who was at this site in its prime

 

[JohnChops]

you're looking at it the wrong way.

1. if you are "aggressive" with a girl and you run her off, she doesn't like you. all you did was cut to the chase of the issue. a girl who likes you will let you will forgive your aggressive behavior but try to adjust it. you won't run off a girl who is into you by being too aggressive.

2. where do guys get this idea that Long term relationships are built on different principles than other relationships? ALL relationships, the very most fundamental aspect of them is that there is a physical and sexual attraction to them. my now wife was all over me within 30 minutes of our first date, we clicked instantly. on the 2nd date she gave me an indirect innuendo she was open to having sex if i was. now we didn't but that was.. it's complicated. let's just say advanced DJ tactics. I knew what i was doing. .we went bowling and instead of dropping her off she asked if she could see my house. that and her actions on the date couldn't be any more clearer. she liked me enough to where she wasn't going to let her not giving it up run me off.

and i mean, we communicate; she's my best friend, i love her company.. but we both still very much are attracted to each other and we sill have a lot of sex. well maybe not a lot but more than enough. if you aren't sexually comparable, if a chick is making you wait for sex, if she's using it like some trump card you need to leave anyway. you don't "earn "sex. sex is not the hotels you get in monopoly after buying 4 houses. it's not the next level in a video game. that's AFC thinking. sex is what happens when 2 people are into each other.

This my friends , in bold, is anti dumps machine hard at work and the result was backbreaker finding a decent wife . Winning he is.