I think i went too far

[Alpheta]

in a relationship for 2.5 years.

However, for the past few weeks my girl has been calling me Constantly but I realised how she hasn't mentioned meeting up. Now I get she may have had exams but at least mention it and maybe ask me to come? Nothing. Just calling and texting. I stopped responding and when she asked I told her to only speak to me when she's ready to see me and that I'll talk to her next month.

Now it's been 2 weeks since, she has constantly called etc but I haven't responded until like 5 days ago where she stopped. I just blocked her yesterday. If she feels to contact me she'll find a way and if she doesn't, then so be it.

I think I may have been harsh. What ya think?

 

[marmel75]

There is something called verbal communication. Try it next time before you go nuclear.

 

[Alpheta]

There is something called verbal communication. Try it next time before you go nuclear.

Sometimes I feel my gut is correct. Talking to a woman about a situation she will always lie regardless. What's annoying myself is that how she didn't at least mention it not even once. Like you are calling me constantly telling me you miss me but you can't conjure up telling me you wish to see me but can't?

 

[marmel75]

Sometimes I feel my gut is correct. Talking to a woman about a situation she will always lie regardless. What's annoying myself is that how she didn't at least mention it not even once. Like you are calling me constantly telling me you miss me but you can't conjure up telling me you wish to see me but can't?

Maybe so, but I have a feeling your lack of communication over the last 2.5 years led you to this point

 

[Dash Riprock]

You WAY over-DJ'd this.

Wow, 2.5 years and THIS is how you handle it? Why didn't you mention meeting up? It goes like this: "Hey Muffy, I know you're busy studying for exams, I have a lot happening too, so here's an idea: during your next study break and my work break lets (fill in the blank). How does (date) look?" Not that hard. You could impress her and just ask her when she is going to have study break and just plan something.

Reminds me of some guy on here who cancelled a trip to Boston with some girl because the girl used "u" instead of "you" when texting, LOL. WTF...one of the most ridiculous things I've ever read on SS.

 

[Alpheta]

Wow, 2.5 years and THIS is how you handle it? Why didn't you mention meeting up? It goes like this: "Hey Muffy, I know you're busy studying for exams, I have a lot happening too, so here's an idea: during your next study break and my work break lets (fill in the blank). How does (date) look?" Not that hard. You could impress her and just ask her when she is going to have study break and just plan something.

Reminds me of some guy on here who cancelled a trip to Boston with some girl because the girl used "u" instead of "you" when texting, LOL. WTF...one of the most ridiculous things I've ever read on SS.

Want me to be honest? Its a long distance relationship. Whatsmore, shes ALWAYS mentioning to meet up. Its been TWO months. No mention. Its not me who calls. Its her. So i expect her to mention something given how shes 'missing' me so much. Not a word. I even hinted it out but she brushed it away. Only when I said I wont be speaking, did she start making excuses and begging to see me after her exams.

 

[kenpiffyjr]

Sounds like you are timid to lead.

I usually would have brushed this off once I read LDR but I want to help you in your situation.

You are a man. You need to lead. If you want a feminine woman, let them be feminine and you state your wants and desires. If they say "no" or don't even give an alternative option...you allow them to have that preference and you put your attention to other things, females, people. This is how you make someone operate in your frame or not at all.

You are practically whining and in her frame. Be a MAN.

 

[Alpheta]

Sounds like you are timid to lead.

I usually would have brushed this off once I read LDR but I want to help you in your situation.

You are a man. You need to lead. If you want a feminine woman, let them be feminine and you state your wants and desires. If they say "no" or don't even give an alternative option...you allow them to have that preference and you put your attention to other things, females, people. This is how you make someone operate in your frame or not at all.

You are practically whining and in her frame. Be a MAN.

I appreciate your input. Can you please elaborate? Also whats the solution from here on?

 

[kenpiffyjr]

Well what do YOU want to do?

If you want to see her, Tell her you'll be in her city and that you want to link up at a specific time.

Her response is your answer. If she's hesitant at all, says no, or counters with something YOU GENUINELY do not agree with or doesn't work for you....don't act butt hurt....just state it doesn't work for you and just tell her she can reach out when she has the time. Then you GENUINELY forget about this girl, drawback your attention to 0 and put your attention to other things. If she replies with ANYTHING to try and recompose frame, DONT REPLY. I don't care if she says she's been having a bad week because her aunt died. Don't reply. The only statements you want to see is her saying "when can I see you?"

If you say the specific time of the day lets say like 1 and she says she has "yada yada who cares to do but what about 2?"....again it's genuinely if it works for you do you accept and say "that's cool". Y'all link up, you kino escalate, try to work towards sex and you stay playing it cool.

Mind you throughout this, you need to accept the fact that you need to Spin other plates and go after other girls. Clear oneitis in this situation.

 

[Alpheta]

Well what do YOU want to do?

If you want to see her, Tell her you'll be in her city and that you want to link up at a specific time.

Her response is your answer. If she's hesitant at all, says no, or counters with something YOU GENUINELY do not agree with or doesn't work for you....don't act butt hurt....just state it doesn't work for you and just tell her she can reach out when she has the time. Then you GENUINELY forget about this girl, drawback your attention to 0 and put your attention to other things. If she replies with ANYTHING to try and recompose frame, DONT REPLY. I don't care if she says she's been having a bad week because her aunt died. Don't reply. The only statements you want to see is her saying "when can I see you?"

If you say the specific time of the day lets say like 1 and she says she has "yada yada who cares to do but what about 2?"....again it's genuinely if it works for you do you accept and say "that's cool". Y'all link up, you kino escalate, try to work towards sex and you stay playing it cool.

Mind you throughout this, you need to accept the fact that you need to Spin other plates and go after other girls. Clear oneitis in this situation.

Well the thing is I did say to her I wont speak to her for a month or so. If I break that that just looks weak. No?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Well the thing is I did say to her I wont speak to her for a month or so. If I break that that just looks weak. No?

Let her go out her way to see you

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

A 2.5 year LDR? What are you doing with your life bro?