Had a date arranged with plate but we didn't settle on the venue.
She was dinning with friends in town and I told her to come meet me at xyz bar which is near mine in an hour and a half.
She agreed. 15 mins before we're due to meet she realizes the bar is near mine and not near town (5 minute cab ride).
She goes into major **** test/control mode. 'I'm not coming there, you come to me etc etc' - she rings me too.
'if you can't be bothered to make the effort then why should I' etc, etc.
'you only want to go there so we can go to yours after'
Now I new when I decided to say the bar near mine she will likely object and I couldn't cave to her demands, so I did weigh it up before deciding to tell her to come here rather than telling her I'd come to town.
Going to her would be a major loss of frame after setting out my stall.
A big part of me was tempted to go to her, I do actually quite like her. But I didn't get drawn into the chick logic arguments and maintained frame. I soft nexted her and will be interested to see how she responds when I do contact her.
She was saying I only want sex whereas my argument was I wouldve come to town had she said earlier but it was too late for me to get that far at that time.
Need to find the right balance of telling her I don't just want her for sex and not being beta.
What would you say?
She was dinning with friends in town and I told her to come meet me at xyz bar which is near mine in an hour and a half.
She agreed. 15 mins before we're due to meet she realizes the bar is near mine and not near town (5 minute cab ride).
She goes into major **** test/control mode. 'I'm not coming there, you come to me etc etc' - she rings me too.
'if you can't be bothered to make the effort then why should I' etc, etc.
'you only want to go there so we can go to yours after'
Now I new when I decided to say the bar near mine she will likely object and I couldn't cave to her demands, so I did weigh it up before deciding to tell her to come here rather than telling her I'd come to town.
Going to her would be a major loss of frame after setting out my stall.
A big part of me was tempted to go to her, I do actually quite like her. But I didn't get drawn into the chick logic arguments and maintained frame. I soft nexted her and will be interested to see how she responds when I do contact her.
She was saying I only want sex whereas my argument was I wouldve come to town had she said earlier but it was too late for me to get that far at that time.
Need to find the right balance of telling her I don't just want her for sex and not being beta.
What would you say?
