Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Read more...

I think I overgamed myself?

:-)

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 11, 2013
Messages
707
Reaction score
40
HB8 initiates on Tinder. Her profile states she is 5'9 and likes her men to tower over her. I am 5'11. Anticipating her to ask my height at some stage I decide to pre-emptively disqualify her.

Her: How's your weekend going?
Me: Hey. What you up to?
Her: JUst a quiet one. Few dinners. You?
Me: You seem pretty cool but I'm not going to waste either of our time. I see you are 5'9 and in heels you would be around my height and I like to be taller than my date.
Her: Thanks for letting me know. Yes I like taller men.

Now it's one thing lying about my profession but should I lie about my height?
Or should I just not have mentioned it?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Pardner

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 21, 2011
Messages
190
Reaction score
72
What the women don't know won't hurt them, the stupid things guys say will hurt them.
 

spiegel549

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 27, 2012
Messages
435
Reaction score
55
Location
Los Angeles
:-) said:
HB8 initiates on Tinder. Her profile states she is 5'9 and likes her men to tower over her. I am 5'11. Anticipating her to ask my height at some stage I decide to pre-emptively disqualify her.

Her: How's your weekend going?
Me: Hey. What you up to?
Her: JUst a quiet one. Few dinners. You?
Me: You seem pretty cool but I'm not going to waste either of our time. I see you are 5'9 and in heels you would be around my height and I like to be taller than my date.
Her: Thanks for letting me know. Yes I like taller men.

Now it's one thing lying about my profession but should I lie about my height?
Or should I just not have mentioned it?
I make a KILLING off tinder. I am 5'8" and could give a fvk if a woman is taller then me. All the same laying down right? :up:

I would not of even said anything. If she asked you could easily add an inch or two. If your 5"11 just say your 6 foot. When you meet up she is not going to say anything.
 

hudpes

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 5, 2014
Messages
304
Reaction score
25
That seemed rather harsh. I've got a friend and there's this one thing I've always admired about how he handles people. No matter what he says or what game he plays, he ALWAYS leaves the door open and you slammed them shut. Hard. I doubt that was your intent.
 

Thorninmyside

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 18, 2014
Messages
622
Reaction score
356
Sounds like self-sabotage. If Bradley Cooper was 5'11" she'd change her tune or just wear flats on their dates.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Top