"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think I might have messed things up...

Confident1

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Ok, I live in New Orleans. Katrina screwed things up, but while I was away in Tennesse, going to another school, this girl that I have liked for a long time (since way before I knew what I was doing...thank you DJs) and I got really close, via internet and whenever we were back home.

She moved back down here over Mardi Gras (long semesters or whatever...). Mardi Gras day we finally hooked up (made out...whatever you want to call it). The problem is: I was so messed up that I am pretty sure the kissing was quite bad to pretty awful. Well, damn, I say to myself, ruined a good thing, but I learned a lesson in the process.

Here's the thing, I think she is still interested... what do I do? Should I try to go for it again? move on? What do you think?

If so, any special moves/tips to try when kissing her...? This girl is a lot more experienced than I.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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oakraiderz2

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I wouldnt say your kissing messed everything up. Next time do better and show her you know what youre doing.
 

stee

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Oh dude.. don't worry. If the girl is really interested, she'll be more forgiving / willing to give you a second chance, so take the hint! :)

I went through a similar experience recently. If you think you're coming on too strong.. or if you're getting the impression that she's thinking that way-- back off a little bit. Next time you see her, just tease her about whatever, and FORGET that you ever "messed up". If you don't mention it and dont seem phased by it, she won't either.

Just remember first.. what do you want? LTR? FB? Figure that out first, then go for it. If she's not interested.. it's okay. just move on.
 
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