"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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I think I might have messed things up...

Confident1

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Ok, I live in New Orleans. Katrina screwed things up, but while I was away in Tennesse, going to another school, this girl that I have liked for a long time (since way before I knew what I was doing...thank you DJs) and I got really close, via internet and whenever we were back home.

She moved back down here over Mardi Gras (long semesters or whatever...). Mardi Gras day we finally hooked up (made out...whatever you want to call it). The problem is: I was so messed up that I am pretty sure the kissing was quite bad to pretty awful. Well, damn, I say to myself, ruined a good thing, but I learned a lesson in the process.

Here's the thing, I think she is still interested... what do I do? Should I try to go for it again? move on? What do you think?

If so, any special moves/tips to try when kissing her...? This girl is a lot more experienced than I.
 

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I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

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I wouldnt say your kissing messed everything up. Next time do better and show her you know what youre doing.
 

stee

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Oh dude.. don't worry. If the girl is really interested, she'll be more forgiving / willing to give you a second chance, so take the hint! :)

I went through a similar experience recently. If you think you're coming on too strong.. or if you're getting the impression that she's thinking that way-- back off a little bit. Next time you see her, just tease her about whatever, and FORGET that you ever "messed up". If you don't mention it and dont seem phased by it, she won't either.

Just remember first.. what do you want? LTR? FB? Figure that out first, then go for it. If she's not interested.. it's okay. just move on.
 
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