"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think I know what Alpha is.

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http://www.innerexplorations.com/catpsy/t1c4.htm

The 1-7-1, perfectly mesomorphic bodytype is the Alpha male. This article confirms all what I thought...character traits, body shape etc etc...this is what Alpha is.

The thing is, very, very few people are perfectly mesomorphic. Personally, I am an Ectomorphic Mespmorph: tall, thin bones and joints, narrowish chest but some musculature, probably something like 1-3-4.

I also think the bit about personality is very interesting, because, from my real world experiences it seems to be true. I think that by knowing your somatype it may be possible to determine what you need to do in order to become good at PU. Me, conforming closely to the ecto/meso type needs to work on fluff talking abilities, not taking myself to seriously and also I need to build muscle mass, amongst other things. Whereas a more endomorphic person would have to work on assertiveness and fat reduction etc.

I think this is a really interesting article and I urge you all to read it....tell me what you think...I think its likely that different PU methods are better for different types. Like GW method for the more mesomorphic ppl, MM for ectos, Juggler for endos etc....

What do you think?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Temperament is an old idea from the 1800s... a generalization. Anyone can change their body type by going to the gym.
It just takes work.

There's also temperaments based on your personality and body type: Sanguine, Nervous and so on.

Have you ever read Therese Raquin by Zola? It's a study of temperaments, but its not exactly scientific stuff.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I see your logic, but this sort of pseudo-psycho-science stuff really overcomplicates things.

I wouldn't even know if I'm an alpha, beta, omega male or whatever. All I know and care about is that I live by my standards and that serves me well in life.
 

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Somebody called me ando last week...

Here's what it says about endos, and man it fits what I want to be perfectly, minus the eating though[:p]

"Endotonics are relaxed and slow-moving. Their breathing comes from the abdomen and is deep and regular. Their speech is unhurried and their limbs often limp. They like sitting in a well-upholstered chair and relaxing. All their reactions are slow, and this is a reflection on a temperament level of a basal metabolism, pulse, breathing rate and temperature which are all often slower and lower than average. The circulation in their hands and feet tends to be poor. Sheldon calls these people biologically introverted organisms. It is as if all the energy is focused on the abdominal area, leaving less free to be expressed in the limbs and face, and giving the impression of a lack of intensity.

Sheldon felt that biological introversion gave rise to psychological extraversion. Since the bodies of the endotonics are so focused on the central digestive system, they need and crave social stimulation in order to feel complete on the social level. Groups of people, rather than fatiguing them, stimulate them to the proper level of social interaction. The assimilative powers that on the physical level were oriented to food, now on the social level draw them to people.

The endotonics love to socialize their eating, and the sharing of meals becomes an event of the highest importance. They treat guests well. They love company and feel more complete with other people around. They like people simply because they are people. They have a strong desire to be liked and approved of, and this often leads them to be very conventional in their choices in order not to run the risk of social disapproval. The endotonics are open and even with their emotions which seem to flow out of them without any inhibitions. Whether they are happy or sad, they want the people around them to know about it, and if others express emotion they react directly and convincingly in sympathy. When an endotonic has been drinking he becomes even more jovial and radiates an expansive love of people. Endotonics are family-oriented and love babies and young children and have highly developed maternal instincts.

In summary, they love assimilation both on the physical and social level. They love to eat and digest, to be part of their family and community, to like and be liked and to rest and relax. They crave food and affection and abhor isolation and disapproval. They express affection and approval readily and need both back in kind."

I've got to start sharing more meals.
 

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L777 said:
So ignorant :rolleyes:
So retarded. :rolleyes:

Generalizations like the one you talk about are about as accurate as, say, astrology. Should I go out more when my horoscope says "you will be lucky in love" and avoid getting out of my room when it says "avoid confrontation?"
 

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Fred Da Head said:
So retarded. :rolleyes:

Generalizations like the one you talk about are about as accurate as, say, astrology. Should I go out more when my horoscope says "you will be lucky in love" and avoid getting out of my room when it says "avoid confrontation?"
Its deffo more accurate than astrology...be fair
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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