"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I think I have to break up with my GF ...

LegendBoy

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I love my gf so much she means so much to me ive been with her about 5 months..

But her mum caught me with her again and she went absolutely mental to me at the back of my gfs school.. She hit me and abused me and said because im muslim and they are orthodox that im not allowed 2 be with there daughter. My gf now is now not allowed to go to the beach. to go mall. to have a phone. to go friends houses. practically nothing..

She loves me so much and i luv her soo much and it hurts a lot that it didn't end because one of us fell out of love it ended in a way out of our control.. It hurts me so much and i really wanted to be with this girl for a long time..

We haven;t officially broken up.. But when i talk 2 her on monday I know she wants 2 stay 2gether and that means not seeing each other for a few months and just talking on phone when shes at school for a few months. And then holidays come and no guarentees she gets a phone. So i think as much as it kills me I have no choice 2 break up..

Man help me out ...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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KontrollerX

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Her parents can go to hell.

You two need to find some way to stay together.
 
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Someone call the dept of homeland security!!

I kid I kid...

Tell them you are going to convert to Christianity. Better yet tell the girl do convert to Islam and really tick off the parents.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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eminence

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tell them your gonna run a jet into their house if they dont let you keep dating their daughter
 
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Axcell

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Take some time to get to know her parents a bit better.
Not sure if you have heard of the saying but when you enter marriage, you aren't only marrying the chick, you are marrying her parents as well. Establish a relationship with them, and let them get to know you a bit better so they realize you aren't so threatening as they may view you as.

You seem like a pretty down to earth nice guy, let them know that and I am sure you will be fine. A friend of mine went through something like this, they ended up getting married. Everything in life has challenges, it's up to you to overcome them. Good luck. ;)
 

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What you don't realize, LegendBoy, is that her parents are on YOUR SIDE. The main reason that this chick is so "in love" with you is that her parents are so against you. If they were smart they'd start telling her about what a nice boy you were and how much they liked you, which would get her to take the other side and tell them that you weren't that nice etc. This Romeo/Juliet dynamic has played out everywhere, throughout history, and has nothing to do with whether your Muslim or Christian or Satanist.

Just dodge her parents and hope they continue to bash you (to her, not physically).
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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LegendBoy

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Ye I agree that the reason we like each other so much is that there is already a problem of her parents so we do not create our own problems in this relationship.

Do you think if they keep catching me with her.. They will eventually give in?? Or will they stubborn because of religion?!?

And getting to know her parents right now isn't an option. They think I am using and abusing the daughter because of my religion.
 
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LegendBoy said:
They will eventually give in?? Or will they stubborn because of religion?!?

They think I am using and abusing the daughter because of my religion.
If her parents are haters then there is little you can do!! Avoid them and have her only call you.
 

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Religion is so stupid. Christians, Muslims, and Jews all believe in the same God but argue and even kill over stupid disputes about prophets...damn...

I honestly don't know what to tell you, man. That's a really sh!tty situation to be in.
 

ChapStick

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Make her mother believe you're planning on converting to Christianity.

I think it's ****ed up of a woman who labels herself a Christian to treat you this way. Unless she caught you having sex with her daughter, the way she reacted was extreme.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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