"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I think I have a disorder.

Konada

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I never really took notice of what I was doing to myself until i stumbled across this page: http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dermatillomania

When I read it, I had a shocking realization that I may indeed have this disorder. It started when I was probably 9 or so. A blister on my thumb soon became an obssession for me to pick it. Over the years I am basically picking the skin off my whole right thumb. However I've stopped picking my thumb and it has healed since then.

But now, I'm moved on to picking the skin off adjacent to my finger nails. Whenever I get an episode of this skin picking frenzy, I always feel a deep 'itch' between the skin and the side of the nail and start picking. It usually never stops until I feel that the surface is 'smooth enough' or there is no skin connecting to my nail. This happens on both my hands, every finger.

Anyone has any idea or experiences on this matter. I feel that desperately I need help to overcome this habit of mine.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Kenny Powers

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yeah definitely turn to a site about picking up women for advice on an obscure medical condition.

See a Doctor and do more research on the condition - the internet must have better places than here to learn about this.
 

ka_mate

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yeah I'd like to be able to solve your problems with a cute paragraph about 'Confidence' and 'Being Alpha' but that won't work.

I'm with Kenny on this one, definitely see a Doctor, totally justified in seeing a doctor about this.

In fact have the 'Confidence' to book your appointment TODAY.
 

lolwut

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Hey I am a doctor , well a resident ^^

it definitely sounds like you have this disorder, usually the most effective treatment for these kind of disorders is cognitive behavior therapy possibly in combination with medication - as there's obsessive compulsive/anxiety opponent.

a psychiatrist will get you the proper help you need, if you cannot directly schedule one you may need to go through your primary care doctor first.
 

Groovy

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I don't understand what "picking skin" is. You just pinch yourself over and over?

Let me ask u this: do u have insomnia\bad sleep, frequent urination, buzzing ears, attention deficit disorder, low confidence, etc... Name some other things bro! Would like to try to help u out on this. Good luck in the meanwhile.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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