Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I think I did alright.

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Theres this track at a school buy my house that I go on sometimes. I walk and run it whenever I feel like it. Today I was on the track minding my own business then I notice this HB8 and her little sister with her. So I just keep to myself and I know its p*ssy but I was a little intimidated on how to talk to her. well later when her and her little sister were sitting in the grass between the track I told both of them hi, how are you? they both told me hi, im good thanks how are you?(hb8 had a nice smile)I also said good. I just chose to keep walking the track

while the 2 of them just sat there. I didnt want to be a creepy guy or something and scare them away.so I went around the track and I told myself if I come around and there not talking ill try to say something to them. so I went around the track and they were both in a deep conversation together, so I decided to wait. about 10 min later I walk by and the HB8 and her sister looked bored so I say...wow you guys look bored? and the hb8 says oh were just resting( giving me a nice big smile.) I just continued to walk..it would

be kinda weird to have sat next to the chick and started talking. well from the way she was dressed she looks like she is at the track alot at around that time. so maybe tommorow I will come at the same time and have a much better conversation with her. and mayber her little sister wont be there this time. so tell me, do you think I did alright in this situation? also I am a beginner.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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you think seeing two hot women that you obviously want to talk to, and they know you are wanting to talk to them (trust me) and leaving without speaking is winning, then this board is full of success stories
 

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nah, sorry man, he's right

There's a chance you could still bang her, tho, if you act more aggressive the next time you see her. But yeah, you screwed up.

Cold approaches are kinda hard, tho...Don't feel too down about it. With a cold approach you never really know what to chat about (because you don't know anything about the girl). Also, imo, it might have been a little awkard to close right in front of her sister. Of course, these are just excuses...and I kinda suck at # closing in general so what do i know
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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johnny_depp said:
Theres this track at a school buy my house that I go on sometimes. I walk and run it whenever I feel like it. Today I was on the track minding my own business then I notice this HB8 and her little sister with her. So I just keep to myself and I know its p*ssy but I was a little intimidated on how to talk to her. well later when her and her little sister were sitting in the grass between the track I told both of them hi, how are you? they both told me hi, im good thanks how are you?(hb8 had a nice smile)I also said good. I just chose to keep walking the track

while the 2 of them just sat there. I didnt want to be a creepy guy or something and scare them away.so I went around the track and I told myself if I come around and there not talking ill try to say something to them. so I went around the track and they were both in a deep conversation together, so I decided to wait. about 10 min later I walk by and the HB8 and her sister looked bored so I say...wow you guys look bored? and the hb8 says oh were just resting( giving me a nice big smile.) I just continued to walk..it would

be kinda weird to have sat next to the chick and started talking. well from the way she was dressed she looks like she is at the track alot at around that time. so maybe tommorow I will come at the same time and have a much better conversation with her. and mayber her little sister wont be there this time. so tell me, do you think I did alright in this situation? also I am a beginner.
"Nice big smile"=talk to me.

She apparently gave you the green light but you dropped the ball.

No worries. Cold approaches are very difficult at first, but get much easier with practice and repitition.

If you see her again and she seems freindly, just lay on some small talk to get some rapport going and ask for her number.
 
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