"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I think a dorm's cafe is great place to meet people. You will find a lot of people eating by themselves. And nobody likes to sit by themself right? So today I asked a cute brunette if I could join her. Everything was going so smoothly. Then we started talking about movies. She said she hasn't seen Spider Man 2 yet. I haven't either so I asked her if she wanted to see it. Then she says, "uh, the movie?" and started talking about something else. So did I pop the question too early?

Jason
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Sounds like she wasn't that interested if she changed the subject. Maybe the movie. Maybe you.

Either way, the cafe is a great place to meet women. I met tons that way when I was in school... remember, she's no the only woman in the cafe. Sit with a different one tomorrow...
 
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its all about risk vs. reward. the more often you take the risk, the higher your chances of getting a reward are. if you dont take the risk, you'll never even have a chance at the reward.
 
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Originally posted by Recluce
its all about risk vs. reward. the more often you take the risk, the higher your chances of getting a reward are. if you dont take the risk, you'll never even have a chance at the reward.
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Cliche statement but this post wasn't about risking or rewarding.

Jason - dude is this how you make friends? You gotta turn a 180 and change your whole approach. Your answer to your question? NO SH!T you asked early. That's like me coming up to you talking about Star Wars and telling you "Hey Jason, come over to my place I just got that new trilogy dvd" How likely are you to agree on the first hour that I met you?
 
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yeah you asked a little bit too early. Shouldn't waited a bit or got her number instead. Or maybe she thought you were too good to be true. You went up to her asked to join her, that shows confidence right there. She's probably thinking, "whoa a confident and good looking guy is asking me out? There must be a catch." Or maybe she has a boyfriend.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well at least I tried. I was about to back out a the last second and sit by myself in the corner.
 
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You took a risk and it fell flat. Don't dwell on it, don't worry about it, don't post on it. You will never know how she felt by thinking about it, so it's all pointless and will just make you feel bad. Instead, realize you did something that most people don't have the balls to do and feel good about that. Then go sit with someone else tomorrow.

EDIT: You didn't blow anything, she did.
 
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You did good.

School is a whole different animal so you answered your own question.You gotta wait awhile before you want the date/number..obviosuly depends on the girl.

Keep talking to her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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