"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I Think I Blew It!!!!

wildinthenorth

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Well, tonight myself and my wing man hit a local bar, and hhad the two hot chicks of the bar invite us to the local strip club.
We arrived before they did, as they had to stop by another bar and say hi to their "boyfriends". They were dancing together for myself and my wingman, and then one proceeded to tell me how she was bi, and a gymnast!!! I was more interested in her friend, so I kind of blew her off.
Her freind however proceeded to tell me how her, and her boyfriend were on the outs, and how hot I was! (Not tooting my own horn, thats what she said). She went on to say how un-satified she was. To make a long story short, we went to leave and she asked why we were leaving? I cut her off and handed her my number in theh middle of the dance floor and she practically had her way with me on theh dance floor. She said she was going to call soon, possibly tonight. I feel like an ameture, I should have gone after both, and taken care of my wing man!!!!! They were ready and I blew it!!! Any words of wisdom?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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joekerr31

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you did nothing wrong. these women were out for attention and potentially an ONS.

the whole boyfriend comments were to let you know they were only interested in a fling.

their comments about how hot you were and everything else was simply to get to start commenting them. im not saying you aren't hot, but they were dropping these things so that you'd start telling them how hot they were.

the whole bi and gymnast thing, i believe, was just to get you riled up and interested in them.

anyway, these situations are confusing. because two women out on the town looking for a night of male attention (but nothing more) would behave very similar to this.

you only have a couple of options in this scenario i think.

1) get their number and move on (which you did. well you gave your number)
2) escalate the situation with physical touching (start touching her leg. move in for a kiss. etc. if they are just AW's they will shut things down the moment things move beyond simply flirting).

3) (my personal favourite) play the women off each other.


the only mistake you made was going to meet them at a strip club. there was a 99% chance they weren't going to show up - especially if they were off to meet their 'boyfriends' first.
 

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these women were out for attention
"We're bi, and we're totally going to make out later! Can you get us some drinks?"
 

Micheal Moon

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joekerr31 said:
their comments about how hot you were and everything else was simply to get to start commenting them. im not saying you aren't hot, but they were dropping these things so that you'd start telling them how hot they were.
So what should you do in this situation? I recently had this happen to me. It caught me off guard b/c the girl is like a 9 in looks. Not wanting to come off as AFC, I smiled and said thanks but refrained from saying how hot she was. I figured she obviously knew it (they all do).

I see her later on, and she does it again. So this time I compliment her back. I figure shes a 9, what's the chance she's an AW? She doesn't need attention. But that's just a guess.

Should you compliment them back to confirm your'e interest, or should you usually just play it cool in that situation?

(don't mean to derail the thread wildinthenorth)
 

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you should treat them the same as youd treat any chic you were interested in.

C&F them and see where it goes.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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wildinthenorth

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The best thing I did, was not buy them drinks. Actually they were buying me shots. I still look back thinking I could hhave played it better.
 
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Haha, you did good kid - up to the part of giving her your number! :rolleyes: Never give a girl your number!

Say "No" to lesbo hos! If she calls you hang up - unless you choose death over life!
 

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wildinthenorth said:
Well, tonight myself and my wing man hit a local bar, and hhad the two hot chicks of the bar invite us to the local strip club.
We arrived before they did, as they had to stop by another bar and say hi to their "boyfriends". They were dancing together for myself and my wingman, and then one proceeded to tell me how she was bi, and a gymnast!!! I was more interested in her friend, so I kind of blew her off.
Her freind however proceeded to tell me how her, and her boyfriend were on the outs, and how hot I was! (Not tooting my own horn, thats what she said). She went on to say how un-satified she was. To make a long story short, we went to leave and she asked why we were leaving? I cut her off and handed her my number in theh middle of the dance floor and she practically had her way with me on theh dance floor. She said she was going to call soon, possibly tonight. I feel like an ameture, I should have gone after both, and taken care of my wing man!!!!! They were ready and I blew it!!! Any words of wisdom?
Are you really 32?

and

Has it been a couple years without hanging around a non-relative woman?
 

wildinthenorth

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Last Man Standing said:
Haha, you did good kid - up to the part of giving her your number! :rolleyes: Never give a girl your number!

Say "No" to lesbo hos! If she calls you hang up - unless you choose death over life!
I know, I know! She had trouble written all over her, and her friend. Not somebody I would ever try to get involved with.
Its still nice to have these situations arise, I'm 32, but look 24, and feel 24. Not looking to get married again, any time soon, just have some fun. I feel like if I dont take advantage of it now, it will go away soon :eek:
 
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