"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I Think I Blew It!!!!

wildinthenorth

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Well, tonight myself and my wing man hit a local bar, and hhad the two hot chicks of the bar invite us to the local strip club.
We arrived before they did, as they had to stop by another bar and say hi to their "boyfriends". They were dancing together for myself and my wingman, and then one proceeded to tell me how she was bi, and a gymnast!!! I was more interested in her friend, so I kind of blew her off.
Her freind however proceeded to tell me how her, and her boyfriend were on the outs, and how hot I was! (Not tooting my own horn, thats what she said). She went on to say how un-satified she was. To make a long story short, we went to leave and she asked why we were leaving? I cut her off and handed her my number in theh middle of the dance floor and she practically had her way with me on theh dance floor. She said she was going to call soon, possibly tonight. I feel like an ameture, I should have gone after both, and taken care of my wing man!!!!! They were ready and I blew it!!! Any words of wisdom?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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joekerr31

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you did nothing wrong. these women were out for attention and potentially an ONS.

the whole boyfriend comments were to let you know they were only interested in a fling.

their comments about how hot you were and everything else was simply to get to start commenting them. im not saying you aren't hot, but they were dropping these things so that you'd start telling them how hot they were.

the whole bi and gymnast thing, i believe, was just to get you riled up and interested in them.

anyway, these situations are confusing. because two women out on the town looking for a night of male attention (but nothing more) would behave very similar to this.

you only have a couple of options in this scenario i think.

1) get their number and move on (which you did. well you gave your number)
2) escalate the situation with physical touching (start touching her leg. move in for a kiss. etc. if they are just AW's they will shut things down the moment things move beyond simply flirting).

3) (my personal favourite) play the women off each other.


the only mistake you made was going to meet them at a strip club. there was a 99% chance they weren't going to show up - especially if they were off to meet their 'boyfriends' first.
 

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these women were out for attention
"We're bi, and we're totally going to make out later! Can you get us some drinks?"
 

Micheal Moon

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joekerr31 said:
their comments about how hot you were and everything else was simply to get to start commenting them. im not saying you aren't hot, but they were dropping these things so that you'd start telling them how hot they were.
So what should you do in this situation? I recently had this happen to me. It caught me off guard b/c the girl is like a 9 in looks. Not wanting to come off as AFC, I smiled and said thanks but refrained from saying how hot she was. I figured she obviously knew it (they all do).

I see her later on, and she does it again. So this time I compliment her back. I figure shes a 9, what's the chance she's an AW? She doesn't need attention. But that's just a guess.

Should you compliment them back to confirm your'e interest, or should you usually just play it cool in that situation?

(don't mean to derail the thread wildinthenorth)
 

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you should treat them the same as youd treat any chic you were interested in.

C&F them and see where it goes.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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wildinthenorth

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The best thing I did, was not buy them drinks. Actually they were buying me shots. I still look back thinking I could hhave played it better.
 
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Haha, you did good kid - up to the part of giving her your number! :rolleyes: Never give a girl your number!

Say "No" to lesbo hos! If she calls you hang up - unless you choose death over life!
 

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wildinthenorth said:
Well, tonight myself and my wing man hit a local bar, and hhad the two hot chicks of the bar invite us to the local strip club.
We arrived before they did, as they had to stop by another bar and say hi to their "boyfriends". They were dancing together for myself and my wingman, and then one proceeded to tell me how she was bi, and a gymnast!!! I was more interested in her friend, so I kind of blew her off.
Her freind however proceeded to tell me how her, and her boyfriend were on the outs, and how hot I was! (Not tooting my own horn, thats what she said). She went on to say how un-satified she was. To make a long story short, we went to leave and she asked why we were leaving? I cut her off and handed her my number in theh middle of the dance floor and she practically had her way with me on theh dance floor. She said she was going to call soon, possibly tonight. I feel like an ameture, I should have gone after both, and taken care of my wing man!!!!! They were ready and I blew it!!! Any words of wisdom?
Are you really 32?

and

Has it been a couple years without hanging around a non-relative woman?
 

wildinthenorth

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Last Man Standing said:
Haha, you did good kid - up to the part of giving her your number! :rolleyes: Never give a girl your number!

Say "No" to lesbo hos! If she calls you hang up - unless you choose death over life!
I know, I know! She had trouble written all over her, and her friend. Not somebody I would ever try to get involved with.
Its still nice to have these situations arise, I'm 32, but look 24, and feel 24. Not looking to get married again, any time soon, just have some fun. I feel like if I dont take advantage of it now, it will go away soon :eek:
 
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