"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I think I am too arrogant
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
What's stopping you from being arrogant with every girl you come across?
"can you repeat what you just said?"
I hope that's not the problem, because you repeated that four times, and it seems like your only hang-up.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
The rest of what you said just encourages more arrogance. "I'm in the top 10, haha, I can get higher, look at me step on all these little people, haha!"mikak said:
The last part though, humbleness... that's interesting.
You bring up Bill Gates being humble... he is also deceptive
Einstein being humble... he chronically ignored people's feelings to concentrate on his work and to accentuate his predominantly lazy arse
the bible... is meant to be figurative, not literal. Destruction of the soul, through arrogance, is such a bold overbearing statement. arrogant about family, arrogant about looks, arrogant about wealth,arrogant about position, arrogant about health...
...Arrogance, in the big picture, is a small judgement for people to place upon your head(only god can judge). For with arrogance, comes persistence(albeit ignorant), and with persistence, and abundance of a given product is available, and is freely shared and given to those 'judged' as deserving.
Honnestly i don't understand why someone should be arrogant about their looks or money or intelligence? Coz all that is due 90% of the time to circumstances.U think u are cultured? What europeean art or what, do u know about art and theathre in japan in china or in africa in australia. No one is omniscient and no one is omnipotent so... humble urself and u will meet more cool people. Since u arrogant i'm sure u have bunch of fake friends who think just like u. But the fact that u admit u are "too arrogant" is a good start on ur way to humility!!!
in all honnesty Mike!!
I don't remeber saying that but if i did i did not mean it. When i talk about bill gates, he said that he knows that a lot of his sucess is due to others buying his products .
English is not my first language, and i'm gonna try to say this the simplest way i can:" There is no point in being arrogant, coz most of our successes are due to circumstances"
it's meant to be literal too. People who are arrogant never se their end coming, they will never admit it. Life is full of people who were arrogant until something horrible( something they don't have any control over) happened to them!!
it's meant to be literal too. People who are arrogant never se their end coming, they will never admit it. Life is full of people who were arrogant until something horrible( something they don't have any control over) happened to them!!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
I love African psychology. It's so unique and different than our own.
"Since u arrogant i'm sure u have bunch of fake friends who think just like u"
I hope to pursue my studies further in Africa after I am finished my ethnologist thesis.
mikak, The way everybody talked to him confirmed and brought out the best in his arrogance. He could sense their dislike in him, so he simply insulted their judgement. He din't wait to hear the basis of the affective arguments, he chose to discredit the source and attack the meaning of the response... it's typical arrogance, c0ckiness(C+F) is the way it is noted on this board.
When he comes across somebody who is just as arrogant as he is, he feels a connection, a need to cooperate. As the laws of power dictate how a person should view everybody as lesser, so a person should trust his 'enemies' more than he trusts his friends.
To me, confidence is the lack of fear. I tried to weasel it out of him, but he continued to ignore my questions, so I doubt I will be able to find the source of the arrogance now
mikak, do you think he is ethnically cultured? Does he have any roots tied to the 'common bourgeouis'?
You are absolutely right on the fact that his arrogance comes from being spoon fed all of his life. He doesn't know what hardships are, as Wyldfire said. He thinks WE are lesser people than he is, simply because we're associated with the common class.
It's funny how being 'assumptuous' ruins so many opportunities in life.
Styleman, what do you seek in life?
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
An arrogant people person has already had people tell him to shut his mouth. He has heard all of the accusations that he is too proud, or too full of himself.
He knows the sayings that he will meet somebody who is better than he is, and he has already planned for the attack, and worded it in a way, that the person who says it, doesn't deserve his time and effort.
Most success is due to cicumstance, that is a hard one to argue as well. Still, arrogance supercedes all forms of humility, it copies what humility means to people, and makes it a challenge to other people. Other people don't see it as a challenge, they see it as insulting, while others see it as smart, and others as worthless.
You and others have dubbed it either worthless, or insulting.
Back when i was in africa, my parents made 1000 times the average income in my country, so iwas arrogant but they kept telling me to humble myself, but i never listen. But when icame to the US and visited other part of the world, I realized how wealthy, how smart how good looking people can be, I learn when i was 20 that, most of ur sucess is due to circumstances. If u are blessed enough to have a lot of wealth, just be thankful and help less fortunate people.
Now that's a great humble man,that is why he is respected and loved!! He does not need to be all boastfull, he know his value and is quiet.
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
Shock treatment is a pleasure that people seek. Shock treatment means that they don't have to change immediately, they get to see what the change would mean immediately, and start to react slowly and with logic...
What you and Wyldfire are trying to do(and I realize now I tried to do to her) was shock treatment from only myself.
Shock treatment, do you know what I am talking about?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.