Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I think I am like seriously controlled by fear/anxiety...
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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The solution?
There is none, oh wait yes there is... get off your ass and do something about it. Where does posting on this forum about it get you? No where.
Start now.
Jumping jacks, GO! 1 and 2 and 3 and 4 and 1 and 2 and 3 and 4..!!!!
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Stop that kind of thinking pattern, are you a cool fvcking guy or what? Nothing gets the best of you UNLESS YOU SAY SO dude.
The feeling may seem like a long time but it's only temporary if you want it to be. Like I said, understand you have total control of your life, what's the main reason that you're feeling this way?
I mean, seriously, think deep down inside because no one feels this way for absolutely no reason.
Anxiety is just a fear of what the future has for you.
How in the hell do you get rid of anxiety? You live in the NOW!!!!! You live by the moment.
Try it! Focus on what is going on right now. I bet you haven't cleared your mind enough to do that, and you've forgotten what it feels like. It's a wonderful sensation. It makes you feel like a kid again really. You remember how carefree you were as a child, right? That's because you lived in the now.
When you become fearful of people, you give them power. You live your life at their whim. You don't accept yourself unless they accept you. Accept yourself and others will accept you. Do not give you power away anymore. Take it back and say "So!" and "Who cares what they think". I mean really, why would you care because once you do, they have your power, and personally I don't think anyone really wants that. When they do have it, they could care less about you. Keep your power, and guide your own destiny.
Seriously, it's all in your head.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Change your self-image and take the rejection out of the equation because that's not who you are. What women and others think of you is not who you are, so take that out of your self-image. Then when you're rejected, you won't be so deflated. Rejection does and will happen. If it didn't, we wouldn't even have the word "rejection" in the English language.
One more thing...
STOP MAKING EXCUSE AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY NOW!
It's all physical appearance and height. You don't have a chance so sit and home and let the days pass you by wishing you were rich and wealthy and cool and a DJ with all the ladies.ItsOnNow said:How much of it is in my head,how much of it is physical appearance? not so much looks,but image ? Know what I mean?
Dude what the hell are you talking about "image?" Screw image and screw what others think. "I can't do this, its too hard to be turned down by the good looking ladies!" Then it's a good thing they didn't send you off to the Iraq War so you could sleep with the snakes and wake up with a mouse in your mouth.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
It has nothing about the clothes you where and the way you look. It has everything to do with your dominance and leadership in the affair. You take control. When people aren't talking to you, you control the atmosphere and say hello. You control the tempo. I'm serious, too. If you take the initiative, you'll see people act totally different towards you.ItsOnNow said:Image,the image you project,confidence,sense of cool,in the know,etc. Clothes you wear.