"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I think I am like seriously controlled by fear/anxiety...
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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The solution?
There is none, oh wait yes there is... get off your ass and do something about it. Where does posting on this forum about it get you? No where.
Start now.
Jumping jacks, GO! 1 and 2 and 3 and 4 and 1 and 2 and 3 and 4..!!!!
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Stop that kind of thinking pattern, are you a cool fvcking guy or what? Nothing gets the best of you UNLESS YOU SAY SO dude.
The feeling may seem like a long time but it's only temporary if you want it to be. Like I said, understand you have total control of your life, what's the main reason that you're feeling this way?
I mean, seriously, think deep down inside because no one feels this way for absolutely no reason.
Anxiety is just a fear of what the future has for you.
How in the hell do you get rid of anxiety? You live in the NOW!!!!! You live by the moment.
Try it! Focus on what is going on right now. I bet you haven't cleared your mind enough to do that, and you've forgotten what it feels like. It's a wonderful sensation. It makes you feel like a kid again really. You remember how carefree you were as a child, right? That's because you lived in the now.
When you become fearful of people, you give them power. You live your life at their whim. You don't accept yourself unless they accept you. Accept yourself and others will accept you. Do not give you power away anymore. Take it back and say "So!" and "Who cares what they think". I mean really, why would you care because once you do, they have your power, and personally I don't think anyone really wants that. When they do have it, they could care less about you. Keep your power, and guide your own destiny.
Seriously, it's all in your head.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Change your self-image and take the rejection out of the equation because that's not who you are. What women and others think of you is not who you are, so take that out of your self-image. Then when you're rejected, you won't be so deflated. Rejection does and will happen. If it didn't, we wouldn't even have the word "rejection" in the English language.
One more thing...
STOP MAKING EXCUSE AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY NOW!
It's all physical appearance and height. You don't have a chance so sit and home and let the days pass you by wishing you were rich and wealthy and cool and a DJ with all the ladies.ItsOnNow said:How much of it is in my head,how much of it is physical appearance? not so much looks,but image ? Know what I mean?
Dude what the hell are you talking about "image?" Screw image and screw what others think. "I can't do this, its too hard to be turned down by the good looking ladies!" Then it's a good thing they didn't send you off to the Iraq War so you could sleep with the snakes and wake up with a mouse in your mouth.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
It has nothing about the clothes you where and the way you look. It has everything to do with your dominance and leadership in the affair. You take control. When people aren't talking to you, you control the atmosphere and say hello. You control the tempo. I'm serious, too. If you take the initiative, you'll see people act totally different towards you.ItsOnNow said:Image,the image you project,confidence,sense of cool,in the know,etc. Clothes you wear.