frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
Mr code? how is florida? do u still live there?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Originally posted by MrCode
Come on, this is all just bullsh!t. Sure, some women may not like you for various reasons, but that is their problem, not yours! All this crap is just excuses you make to yourself for why you don't even try!
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
lol, I never said I was gangly, and I never tried to "make" it as a dancer... the dance instructor thing was just another way to pick up girls. But after I saw the way the dance schools ripped off poor symps both males and females, I just couldn't be a part of it.Originally posted by Player_Supreme
Your 6'6 and you taught dance...no wonder you never made it as a dancer. You were too tall and gangly.
Florida is OK. I've lived here my whole life so for me it is all pretty standard. Though I've only been in South Florida for about 5 years. South Florida is almost a completely different state compared to further north. These hurricanes have been a b!tch, though my house did OK.Originally posted by frivolousz21
Mr code? how is florida? do u still live there?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Originally posted by MrCode
Let's see how many more limiting beliefs you guys can come up with?
How about if you wear less than a size 10 shoe women will be repulsed by you.
Or if you make less than $80,000 a year no woman will want you.
Or if your face is not perfectly symmetrical with a strong jaw line and perfect nose you won't ever get laid.
Or if your teeth are not perfectly straight and white no girl will want to kiss you.
Or if your clothes are not the top of the line Armani with $400 shoes you won't get any play.
Come on, this is all just bullsh!t. Sure, some women may not like you for various reasons, but that is their problem, not yours! All this crap is just excuses you make to yourself for why you don't even try!
If you LA guys stop before approaching a 9 because you are under 5'7 or whatever excuse, you are rejecting yourself! Why not leave that up to her? Because in reality there is as good of a chance she will like you as not, if you at least try.
By the way, I'm so passionate about this because I use to do this sh!t all the time. "I'm too short, my teeth aren't perfect, my house isn't a mansion, I have a pimple, my nose isn't perfect, blah blah." All it ever got me was an empty bed.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
yes yes, I read yours after I made my post; didnt realize you'd already gone through and covered it. Anyway yeah, DeAngelo's stuff got me started in the right direction a few months ago, but then I got impatient and found this place. there's so much conflicting advice, such as dave's "never smile" to dj's "always smile." this is the one I'm most confused about, especially since I'm a big Dave-ist.Originally posted by MrCode
I also like DeAngelo's stuff, and the post above that TyTe`EyEs quoted is heavily influenced by DeAngelo's ideas.
Thank you Mr. Code! That is on point. Anything can be a limiting belief if you let it.Originally posted by MrCode
Let's see how many more limiting beliefs you guys can come up with?
How about if you wear less than a size 10 shoe women will be repulsed by you.
Or if you make less than $80,000 a year no woman will want you.
Or if your face is not perfectly symmetrical with a strong jaw line and perfect nose you won't ever get laid.
Or if your teeth are not perfectly straight and white no girl will want to kiss you.
Or if your clothes are not the top of the line Armani with $400 shoes you won't get any play.
Come on, this is all just bullsh!t. Sure, some women may not like you for various reasons, but that is their problem, not yours! All this crap is just excuses you make to yourself for why you don't even try!
If you LA guys stop before approaching a 9 because you are under 5'7 or whatever excuse, you are rejecting yourself! Why not leave that up to her? Because in reality there is as good of a chance she will like you as not, if you at least try.
By the way, I'm so passionate about this because I use to do this sh!t all the time. "I'm too short, my teeth aren't perfect, my house isn't a mansion, I have a pimple, my nose isn't perfect, blah blah." All it ever got me was an empty bed.
Tell your grandma to shut up and make me a quilt and bake me a pie like a real grandma.Originally posted by Ice Cold
Nobody likes short guys. My grandma used to talk about it.
"What kind of a man is a short man? It's not a man. It's a toy. A real man is tall"
Go figure.
Where's the "middle finger" emoticon?Originally posted by Fatality
Tell your grandma to shut up and make me a quilt and bake me a pie like a real grandma.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.