Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Tha Realnezz said:In any scenario the first guys that always stand out to women(women not girls) is the taller men and the musclebound men.
I know butt ugly guys from my gym who get LOTS of attention..
The majority of hot women attracted to Brad Pitt's average physique are also attracted to his genetically perfect face, large bank account, and celebrity status.thickandcreamy said:Do these "butt ugly guys" pull girls? "Attention" and "sex" are two different things.
You should be clear on what you mean by musclebound:
1. Brad Pitt physique
2. Ron Coleman physique
3. John Cena/The Rock physique
The majority of hot women are attracted to #1 and not #2 or #3.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Sigh, of course looks matter, we've all gone over this and the people who said they didn't matter learnt that they did, and the people who said they were MOST important realised they only count for about 25% of the attraction.Vypros said:I used to a know a woman who was married to a guy who used to lift weights.
This guy was frikin' HUGE too. Tall, relatively good looking, had the whole package as far as looks were concerned. And he was into weight lifting and looking good and all that jazz.
You know what? She was REPULSED by it. Not just turned off, but repulsed.
They were divorced/seperated like 2 years later.
Muscles, looks, height, weight, they don't matter! Get that **** out of your brain right now. In actuality they do matter a LITTLE bit, but it's only like 20 % of the whole package that women are into! But for the purposes of this forum and the people who post her, FORGET ABOUT THE WAY YOU LOOK! FOR GODS SAKES SPEND THE TIME ON WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ACT!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I know girls that don't want their guys to dress nice,go out or have freinds of any gender.Kwello said:Some women actually are repulsed by it guys. My cousin wanted to start going to the gym with me and his girlfriend actually made him promise not to go because she doesn't like the look at all.
Everything in moderation is a key to remember. Don't start looking like some powerlifter/bodybuilder... women are usually NOT attracted to that other than out of morbid curiosity (you don't want to get fvcked as some science experiment).
The body and height can initially set you apart from the crowd which why I almost always wear shoes that can boost my height to 6'1 or 6'2. The face is the real captivator though and is your main tool.
Fred... the reason they have fame and fortune is BECAUSE they have the ability to captive the masses. You can't just throw money at someone and give them a movie deal and expect them to become huge stars. There's a certain 'je ne sais quoi' which resonates from the male stars.
Now look at their body types. Almost every single one of the most lusted after Hollywood men has a lean, slim, somewhat muscular figure... but they really aren't very built at all. Not even close.
^That's not creatine..lol..trust me..NickSCFC2000 said:Sigh, of course looks matter, we've all gone over this and the people who said they didn't matter learnt that they did, and the people who said they were MOST important realised they only count for about 25% of the attraction.
Yeah women get turned on by muscles, but I'm talking Brad Pitt muscles, not bit freaky Arnie muscles.
I know alot of guys at the gym who are muscular and always single, but these are the really muscular guys (ya know, the ones with huge zits on their backs due to all the creatine) and to be honest, most meatheads don't have much in the brain department.
So yeah, girls are turned on by a bit of muscle, if you're skinny bulk up, if you're fat go running, but if you're a meathead, well, you're ****ed.
1. MeatheadBluEyes said:What the hell is a meathead?
Are you for real? I'd consider myself above average but I'd give my left testicle to have the rock or cena's physique. And Brad Pitt's "physique" (assuming you mean the way he looks in fight club) is largely down to gentetics, he's naturally wide shouldered and well built, and so he just had to add a bit of muscle and then cut.thickandcreamy said:Do these "butt ugly guys" pull girls? "Attention" and "sex" are two different things.
You should be clear on what you mean by musclebound:
1. Brad Pitt physique
2. Ron Coleman physique
3. John Cena/The Rock physique
The majority of hot women are attracted to #1 and not #2 or #3.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Cool man good stuff. I've been going for 5 months and I've gained 17 lb, mostly muscle. Althoough I'm still only 175 at 6'1...I wasn't born with it but there's nothing hard work can't buy!Play the Game said:I started working out about a year ago. I gained about 20-30 pounds of muscle
and i'm really starting to get the attention from the ladies, especially the hotter and fit ones.
The fat girls no longer hit on me, they just give me dirty looks.
The shy ones are now TERRIFIED of me! haha
Tha Realnezz said:So that might be the answer to some of you "I'm a 9 yet I never get approached" guys.
you finally bought me. i need to work on my persona more than my looks. im already good looking but it won't get me anywhere if i can't keep interest.Vypros said:I used to a know a woman who was married to a guy who used to lift weights.
This guy was frikin' HUGE too. Tall, relatively good looking, had the whole package as far as looks were concerned. And he was into weight lifting and looking good and all that jazz.
You know what? She was REPULSED by it. Not just turned off, but repulsed.
They were divorced/seperated like 2 years later.
Muscles, looks, height, weight, they don't matter! Get that **** out of your brain right now. In actuality they do matter a LITTLE bit, but it's only like 20 % of the whole package that women are into! But for the purposes of this forum and the people who post her, FORGET ABOUT THE WAY YOU LOOK! FOR GODS SAKES SPEND THE TIME ON WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU ACT!