I think a problem I have is...

[ItsOnNow]

I don't know who I am. I don't know where I fit in,I don't know how mature I am,I haven't worked my ass off and gotten where I needed to go, I haven't improved where I want to. I feel adrift. I feel like I am sometimes out of touch with reality. It could be insecurity or anxiety. Alot of it has to do with long periods of loneliness,I realize this cause I have never approached anyone. I can shut down sometimes instead of working through it. I have always thought it would just happen,that's not true. I have been reading on plentyofffish.com as well. ALot of the same subjects come up on there. I was just reading about nice guys,I wouldn't qualify myself as that,as I have many tendencies,done somc fvcked up things,such as I once almost killed someone in a drunken rage,only after they had stabbed me in the back though. I have had little college experience,not into bar/club scene,although would like to be,and am always in this slump. It's driving me nuts.

 

[MooseGod]

Truth be told man, nobody really knows who they are or where they're going. Sure, some might have a vague idea, but plans are always flexible. Better opportunities might come up. You've just got to be confident in your abilities and "keep on keepin' on."

A lot of people seem to agonize over the meaning of life....fact of the matter is, there is no meaning but what you make for yourself. Just find something and go for it. Find a passion, an obsession. Something that keeps you pushing ahead. Everything else will pretty much fall into place after that.

 

[Interceptor]

ION,
what you have to realize is the VALUE of NOT living life like you do.
You must assign a VALUE to that which you believe will provide you comfort and happiness.

Since you are not placing enough value on that, it is hard for you to make any strides toward that goal.

Do you value food?

Water?
clothes?
shelter?


All these things have value.
And in a life threatening situation I'm sure you'll want to secure those things for yourself.

You probably wouldnt hesitate.


So why arent you taking steps to get those issues handled?

 

[DonGorgon]

Who you are is based on others perception of what you have!

 

[Interceptor]

Who you ARE has NOTHING to do with 'others perceptions' and 'what you have'!

 

[ItsOnNow]

I don't know. It feels like I am in this constant slump,one that involves hot having a woman gf,I have been reading alot this pua stuff,and realize where I have head my head up my ass or in the clouds.

 

[Mavrick]

It's not who you are that you do not know, but it's a lack of believing who you are. You don't stand up and show a self belief. Your self-talk is rife with self doubt. Insecurity is a lack of belief in yourself.

Don't go on some long, endless journey to find yourself because you're right there. Everything you ever knew about yourself is more than anyone else will ever know. Until you start believing in who you are, no one else will.

Until you stand up for yourself, you'll always be beat down by whatever life throws at you. You shouldn't allow anyone the ability to define who you are. Only you can do that, and you do it daily.

What you portray about yourself is what people will see in you. Have some self-respect and stop stripping yourself of your dignity. It's time for you to own who you are. Only you can make believers out of others.

You know who you are, but you fear what other's think of who you are is why you don't allow yourself to be that person that you are.

Love yourself always and above all others. Never put anyone above yourself. If you defend yourself and stand up for yourself with boundaries drawn by self-respect, there isn't any way anyone could step on your toes.

You know who you are, and you don't have to search. Find your boundaries to defend who you actually are and to define who you are. Don't let anymore of this crap in your head bring you down. People will only respect you until you respect yourself. You cannot love others until you love yourself.

Good luck, Bro!