"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think a few of my buddies may be wieghing me down?

Michaelangelo

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So im 2 years outa highschool and ive hit a bit of a dry spell recently... n lately ive been analyzin a couple of my buddies.. I think they are weighing me down. I mean they were good times in highschool but it feels like the more i evolve and grow, the more i relize that theyre probably effectin my game.. They have less game then me, they often dress in a way thats embarassin (dirty shoes kinda thing), they just seem to act awkward sometimes around chicks. So i mean i guess i probably already kno the answer to my question, n that is that i should minimize the time i hang out with them.. I finished reading napolean hill think and grow rich the other day and llearnin about the mastermind principle has made me question about the ppl i hang around with. THe mastermind group is a group of ppl like your friends who you come together with to reach a common purpose. I kno that by hangin around with certain ppl whether i like it or not they rub off on me... I noticed that my scarcity mentality(feelin that i need to hold on super tight to a new girl) has been a cause of some of my buddies feelings relatin on to me...

IF anybody has gone through a similar situation that you could share thatd be cool.. Honestly i feel like i have changed so much in the past 2 years and some of my buds havent and so i feel that i need to move on or atleast limit the time i spend with them. curouis to hear anyones opinions.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Michaelangelo said:
So im 2 years outa highschool and ive hit a bit of a dry spell recently... n lately ive been analyzin a couple of my buddies.. I think they are weighing me down. I mean they were good times in highschool but it feels like the more i evolve and grow, the more i relize that theyre probably effectin my game.. They have less game then me, they often dress in a way thats embarassin (dirty shoes kinda thing), they just seem to act awkward sometimes around chicks. So i mean i guess i probably already kno the answer to my question, n that is that i should minimize the time i hang out with them.. I finished reading napolean hill think and grow rich the other day and llearnin about the mastermind principle has made me question about the ppl i hang around with. THe mastermind group is a group of ppl like your friends who you come together with to reach a common purpose. I kno that by hangin around with certain ppl whether i like it or not they rub off on me... I noticed that my scarcity mentality(feelin that i need to hold on super tight to a new girl) has been a cause of some of my buddies feelings relatin on to me...

IF anybody has gone through a similar situation that you could share thatd be cool.. Honestly i feel like i have changed so much in the past 2 years and some of my buds havent and so i feel that i need to move on or atleast limit the time i spend with them. curouis to hear anyones opinions.
You want to be successful hang out with successful people. Listen, my advice is to find yourself a mentor.

I can help you if you want it.
 

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KarmaSutra is completely right--if you seriously want self-improvement, ridding yourself of negative influences is a good start. Only a couple of my current core group of friends are from my pre-college days. I know I've evolved & changed drastically since high school, and my circle of friends reflects that. You can't elevate standards you expect of yourself if you aren't willing to also have standards when it comes to your friends. [did I throw enough cliches in there? :)]
 

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The problem with "loser" friends is that you're dragged down by them. If they are unmotivated in life then it rubs off on you. Also women can judge you by your social proof, if you hang around with a bunch of losers then she'll cosnider you a loser as well.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I dont think u should drop your friends, especially if yall have been hangin out for all these years.

But at the same time, there is nothin wrong w/ creatin new friends.
 

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Yo u gotta meet some people that want to push their game to the limits with women... It might seem hard at first to give up on your friends but they are obviously not chasing the same goals as you are.
 
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