"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I think a few of my buddies may be wieghing me down?

Michaelangelo

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So im 2 years outa highschool and ive hit a bit of a dry spell recently... n lately ive been analyzin a couple of my buddies.. I think they are weighing me down. I mean they were good times in highschool but it feels like the more i evolve and grow, the more i relize that theyre probably effectin my game.. They have less game then me, they often dress in a way thats embarassin (dirty shoes kinda thing), they just seem to act awkward sometimes around chicks. So i mean i guess i probably already kno the answer to my question, n that is that i should minimize the time i hang out with them.. I finished reading napolean hill think and grow rich the other day and llearnin about the mastermind principle has made me question about the ppl i hang around with. THe mastermind group is a group of ppl like your friends who you come together with to reach a common purpose. I kno that by hangin around with certain ppl whether i like it or not they rub off on me... I noticed that my scarcity mentality(feelin that i need to hold on super tight to a new girl) has been a cause of some of my buddies feelings relatin on to me...

IF anybody has gone through a similar situation that you could share thatd be cool.. Honestly i feel like i have changed so much in the past 2 years and some of my buds havent and so i feel that i need to move on or atleast limit the time i spend with them. curouis to hear anyones opinions.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Michaelangelo said:
So im 2 years outa highschool and ive hit a bit of a dry spell recently... n lately ive been analyzin a couple of my buddies.. I think they are weighing me down. I mean they were good times in highschool but it feels like the more i evolve and grow, the more i relize that theyre probably effectin my game.. They have less game then me, they often dress in a way thats embarassin (dirty shoes kinda thing), they just seem to act awkward sometimes around chicks. So i mean i guess i probably already kno the answer to my question, n that is that i should minimize the time i hang out with them.. I finished reading napolean hill think and grow rich the other day and llearnin about the mastermind principle has made me question about the ppl i hang around with. THe mastermind group is a group of ppl like your friends who you come together with to reach a common purpose. I kno that by hangin around with certain ppl whether i like it or not they rub off on me... I noticed that my scarcity mentality(feelin that i need to hold on super tight to a new girl) has been a cause of some of my buddies feelings relatin on to me...

IF anybody has gone through a similar situation that you could share thatd be cool.. Honestly i feel like i have changed so much in the past 2 years and some of my buds havent and so i feel that i need to move on or atleast limit the time i spend with them. curouis to hear anyones opinions.
You want to be successful hang out with successful people. Listen, my advice is to find yourself a mentor.

I can help you if you want it.
 

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KarmaSutra is completely right--if you seriously want self-improvement, ridding yourself of negative influences is a good start. Only a couple of my current core group of friends are from my pre-college days. I know I've evolved & changed drastically since high school, and my circle of friends reflects that. You can't elevate standards you expect of yourself if you aren't willing to also have standards when it comes to your friends. [did I throw enough cliches in there? :)]
 

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The problem with "loser" friends is that you're dragged down by them. If they are unmotivated in life then it rubs off on you. Also women can judge you by your social proof, if you hang around with a bunch of losers then she'll cosnider you a loser as well.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Cronus

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I dont think u should drop your friends, especially if yall have been hangin out for all these years.

But at the same time, there is nothin wrong w/ creatin new friends.
 

bachelor

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Yo u gotta meet some people that want to push their game to the limits with women... It might seem hard at first to give up on your friends but they are obviously not chasing the same goals as you are.
 
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