"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I suck!!! Every Girl Rejects Me

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some of you gotta act like you're your own age..

NMA, i don't want to tell you this but i will.. it seems like you're just making a big fuss because of what happened.. your problem is nothing. from the way how i see you are complaining to the members here, i can see the problem... shows that you got something you should fix before you rant.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Seriously, though...Do people here stand in front of the mirrors and give themselves pep talks before they go out, or is SoSuave just populated with a lot of really gullible people that can talk themselves into anything? If you fail routinely with women, there's no way (short of delusional personality disoreders) that you can just will yourself confidence.

Confidence requires that you BE confident in something...how can one be confident in their prospects for success if they have never actually achieved any successes of note?

So, it creates an interesting paradox: if you cannot be successful until you are confident, and you cannot have confidence until you have some successes...
 

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I'd watch a few Marlon Brando, James Dean, John Wayne, James Bond movies to get my look down.

James Bond never smiles, and his eyes are never wide like a deer, he looks like a killer.

Be friendly but have the look of an assassin.
 

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ok guys i appreciate your help but i asked a girl 19 years old what she thought of me in the looks department

i will translate what she said

" your not that horrible but you aren't the hottest guy in the world either!!!if you know what i mean...but your are getting old also..well stay cool "


now tell me, this girl was direct or was she?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i tried to get some more info about my looks from this girl and here's what she told me:

" ok i'm going to be sincere with you, the only thing that is wrong in your pics are your ears!!!,with this i said what i had to say, you have big ears, too big for your face but as i said before there are lots of guys uglier than you "

ok have u guys noticed that too if so, what can i do to improve? i can always go to the gym and improve my body never my face, by other words, i'm completely ****ed at least this girl had the balls to say it.

ok guys i'm out the game

good luck to u all
 

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Remember how I told you to grow your hair long?

Do that. It will take the attention from your ears.

Done.
 

NoMoreAFC

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man i'm almost 29 and growing bald, how can i grow my hair long?

it just doesnt work
 

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Man we all get down every now and again...but ffs you sound soo pathetic get a life allrdy!
 

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i will man, now i know why all of them reject me so i wont even bother to look at them, i will ignore them and live my own life.

thats all i can do
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by NoMoreAFC
i will man, now i know why all of them reject me so i wont even bother to look at them, i will ignore them and live my own life.

thats all i can do
I think your an average looking guy (NOT UGLY)

So i think the best advice you can take onboard was from the guy who said "Take it easy,have patience and it will happen"

i think i'm in the same boat as you atm....i'm trying to hard to get something where i should really just take it easy.
 

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you got to do something about your hair. thats what ruining your looks to be honest. get a wig or a hair transplant. eh man i heard ben affleck has had a hair transplant.
 

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Originally posted by NoMoreAFC
i can always go to the gym and improve my body never my face,
This is where you are mistaken. When you build your body, your facial features change rather dramatically too. The increased muscles in your jaw and neck will undoubtedly take emphasis from your ears (not that I see them as a problem).

Besides, it really changes people's entire perception of you as a person. Eg:

http://www.whudat.com/temp_sounds/vindiesel1.wmv

http://hem.passagen.se/vin_diesel/storage/cutesmile.jpg

And his face hasn't changed that much!
 
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