"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I still think....
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we could all benefit from it and I dont see the downside to it..."Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
thederekeffect1
Master Don Juan
Yeah I agree, I do like that type of style, but who said it was the best?San Jose California said:Best style is: short sleeved button down shirt, plain color, not striped or plaid or pockets or any of that bs, unbuttoned, and with a white t-shirt or wife beater underneath. With jeans. It looks like you didn't put much work into the outfit, but it still looks real good and you still dress better than the majority of people.
Reply if you agree with me.
This forum is getting so bland and not much advice is even being posted, (but thats beside the point)
Im pretty damn sure people here need some help with their style and its a good place to get critiqued, Im still waiting for the admin/mods to give me a reason (a reasonable one) as to why we cant have a style forum? It surely would benefit all of us.
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thederekeffect1
Master Don Juan
Girls do notice jeans, but I don't think they care about price. They notice nice jeans.The Sperminator said:I just wear a nice looking t shirt not one of those crappy ones but the nice ones. Nice jeans. Let me tell you something girls notice jeans. Don't be wearing that crappy 20 dollar pair. Invest some money on jeans trust me it's worth it. Then I have a nice belt and some clean sneakers.
You can walk into any department store and get a normal pair of jeans for $14. You know what I'm talking about. The jeans that are always folded up neatly, sitting in a boxed shelf right next to a poster of a Levi model and are rocking the "50% off" sign.
Then, there's the jeans on the hangers. They look a little nicer, plus they have a 15% off tag hanging from them, so you're still saving!
Then, deep in the jungle of department store clothing in an area that most department store shoppers never venture, there be one rack of "designer jeans". I don't know, that $25 price tag might put you over your budget...
Random fact about the poster: I don't own one pair of jeans that weren't bought from department stores, but I still get compliments on my jeans all the time. I wear what department stores like to call, "designer jeans".
Random fact #2 about the poster: I have only once in my life paid more then $50 on a pair of shoes. I bought a pair of Nikes in the 5th grade. Still, I have been complimented on my shoes. It's really not about the brand. It's more about the style.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.