"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I still think....
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we could all benefit from it and I dont see the downside to it..."She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
thederekeffect1
Master Don Juan
Yeah I agree, I do like that type of style, but who said it was the best?San Jose California said:Best style is: short sleeved button down shirt, plain color, not striped or plaid or pockets or any of that bs, unbuttoned, and with a white t-shirt or wife beater underneath. With jeans. It looks like you didn't put much work into the outfit, but it still looks real good and you still dress better than the majority of people.
Reply if you agree with me.
This forum is getting so bland and not much advice is even being posted, (but thats beside the point)
Im pretty damn sure people here need some help with their style and its a good place to get critiqued, Im still waiting for the admin/mods to give me a reason (a reasonable one) as to why we cant have a style forum? It surely would benefit all of us.
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thederekeffect1
Master Don Juan
Girls do notice jeans, but I don't think they care about price. They notice nice jeans.The Sperminator said:I just wear a nice looking t shirt not one of those crappy ones but the nice ones. Nice jeans. Let me tell you something girls notice jeans. Don't be wearing that crappy 20 dollar pair. Invest some money on jeans trust me it's worth it. Then I have a nice belt and some clean sneakers.
You can walk into any department store and get a normal pair of jeans for $14. You know what I'm talking about. The jeans that are always folded up neatly, sitting in a boxed shelf right next to a poster of a Levi model and are rocking the "50% off" sign.
Then, there's the jeans on the hangers. They look a little nicer, plus they have a 15% off tag hanging from them, so you're still saving!
Then, deep in the jungle of department store clothing in an area that most department store shoppers never venture, there be one rack of "designer jeans". I don't know, that $25 price tag might put you over your budget...
Random fact about the poster: I don't own one pair of jeans that weren't bought from department stores, but I still get compliments on my jeans all the time. I wear what department stores like to call, "designer jeans".
Random fact #2 about the poster: I have only once in my life paid more then $50 on a pair of shoes. I bought a pair of Nikes in the 5th grade. Still, I have been complimented on my shoes. It's really not about the brand. It's more about the style.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.