"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I stiil have a subconscious fear of approaching

flows101

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Hey it’s your boy flows I need some advice on how to get rid of this subconscious fear I still have of approaching women. As most of you already now I started my approach journal on 18/04/06 and since then iv approached quite a few women but from time I still get this fear I still hesitate and it takes me 10 to 30secs to pull myself together I thought this fear would diminish over time as I approached more and more women but it hasn’t and now it’s actually beginning to bring me down :(.

So any ideas of why this is happening or how I could solve it would be most appreciated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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d9930380

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Accept it

I think everyone does. I do and so does everyone I know. At the end of the day, you're putting yourself up for rejection and that hurts the ego.

The way I like to look at it is this: When you get rejected, is it ever as bad to the ego as you feared or was it just an irrational fear in the first place.
 

ultamate

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fear of rejection has nothing to do with me cause I dont think of approching a girl untill I get eye contact and know shes interested cause she looks back a couple times so i know she wants me to talk to her, but even then i get my fear and hesitate:kick: so flows i understand:wave:
 

superchristx

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Just because its subconcious, doesn't mean you cant influence it at all. Imagine yourself seeing a lady, and approaching immediately. She acts cold but you keep smiling and wear her down. Imagine this all the time, and it will start happening!
 

GloriouslyInsane

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As others have said,its a game of numbers,you just have to roll the dice.Good thing is you can roll as many times as you want.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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