"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I stiil have a subconscious fear of approaching

flows101

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Hey it’s your boy flows I need some advice on how to get rid of this subconscious fear I still have of approaching women. As most of you already now I started my approach journal on 18/04/06 and since then iv approached quite a few women but from time I still get this fear I still hesitate and it takes me 10 to 30secs to pull myself together I thought this fear would diminish over time as I approached more and more women but it hasn’t and now it’s actually beginning to bring me down :(.

So any ideas of why this is happening or how I could solve it would be most appreciated.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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d9930380

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Accept it

I think everyone does. I do and so does everyone I know. At the end of the day, you're putting yourself up for rejection and that hurts the ego.

The way I like to look at it is this: When you get rejected, is it ever as bad to the ego as you feared or was it just an irrational fear in the first place.
 

ultamate

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fear of rejection has nothing to do with me cause I dont think of approching a girl untill I get eye contact and know shes interested cause she looks back a couple times so i know she wants me to talk to her, but even then i get my fear and hesitate:kick: so flows i understand:wave:
 

superchristx

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Just because its subconcious, doesn't mean you cant influence it at all. Imagine yourself seeing a lady, and approaching immediately. She acts cold but you keep smiling and wear her down. Imagine this all the time, and it will start happening!
 

GloriouslyInsane

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As others have said,its a game of numbers,you just have to roll the dice.Good thing is you can roll as many times as you want.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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