"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I should do something special.. right?

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Well prom is coming up and convientely this girl that I've been into for a long time broke up with her boyfriend so that she could go to the prom with me.

Her friends already have scoped everything out and they have let her know that I'm going to ask her. So I guess I have a little time since she knows she'll be asked.. but I want to do something soon. Anyway, I think I should do something special for her. I mean ask her in a special way. It seems like the least I can do on my part after she broke up with her boyfriend of nearly a year for me.

I'm trying to think of something somewhat orignal, but nothing has come to mind! Any one have some good suggestions?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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1) start dating her before prom.

2) don't do anything special. she didn't break up with her boyfriend for you, she broke up with her boyfriend for herself so she could date you. don't confuse the two.
 

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hmmm.....

Finch: A&F Brand Cologne is right... If she was happy with her ex, then she wouldnt break up with him, obviously she wasnt happy and you seemed to be the better option/choice, so she did it for her OWN good, not for yours.

Anyways... Take her somewhere.. like a walk on the beach, watch the sunset etc, then pop the question. ("Will you go out with me") Then her going to the prom with you should be a given, seeing as she will be your gf.

So in other words, dont make it anything TOO special, but not TOO meaningless/simple, so a walk on the beach and sunset scene will do the job just right.;)


Laterz...
 

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Awesome, good advice. I don't really know this girl all too well as we've just started hanging out recently. You think I should ask her out? Is that wise considering I don't even know her too well.
 

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Originally posted by Finch
Awesome, good advice. I don't really know this girl all too well as we've just started hanging out recently. You think I should ask her out? Is that wise considering I don't even know her too well.
Homey you keep playing around and some one else will ask her. You are already at a disadvantage because she know you are going to ask her, so every day that pass you look like a chump.

The prom is special enough you dont have to do anything else crazy, just ask her ASAP.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Does "will you go out with me?" actually work often? It seems wussy to me. If it does and I didn't try this simple thing, then I should kick myself because the girl I was going to ask out is taken and I doubt they'll break up soon, although it is a long distance thing. It burns my @$$ that a guy in another county beat me at a girl two miles away.
 

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Yeah, that's what I was thinking myself. I'm not too sure what to say. She'll say yes no matter what basically, but regardless I don't want to sound like some whimp.
 
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