"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I should do something special.. right?

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Well prom is coming up and convientely this girl that I've been into for a long time broke up with her boyfriend so that she could go to the prom with me.

Her friends already have scoped everything out and they have let her know that I'm going to ask her. So I guess I have a little time since she knows she'll be asked.. but I want to do something soon. Anyway, I think I should do something special for her. I mean ask her in a special way. It seems like the least I can do on my part after she broke up with her boyfriend of nearly a year for me.

I'm trying to think of something somewhat orignal, but nothing has come to mind! Any one have some good suggestions?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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1) start dating her before prom.

2) don't do anything special. she didn't break up with her boyfriend for you, she broke up with her boyfriend for herself so she could date you. don't confuse the two.
 

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hmmm.....

Finch: A&F Brand Cologne is right... If she was happy with her ex, then she wouldnt break up with him, obviously she wasnt happy and you seemed to be the better option/choice, so she did it for her OWN good, not for yours.

Anyways... Take her somewhere.. like a walk on the beach, watch the sunset etc, then pop the question. ("Will you go out with me") Then her going to the prom with you should be a given, seeing as she will be your gf.

So in other words, dont make it anything TOO special, but not TOO meaningless/simple, so a walk on the beach and sunset scene will do the job just right.;)


Laterz...
 

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Awesome, good advice. I don't really know this girl all too well as we've just started hanging out recently. You think I should ask her out? Is that wise considering I don't even know her too well.
 

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Originally posted by Finch
Awesome, good advice. I don't really know this girl all too well as we've just started hanging out recently. You think I should ask her out? Is that wise considering I don't even know her too well.
Homey you keep playing around and some one else will ask her. You are already at a disadvantage because she know you are going to ask her, so every day that pass you look like a chump.

The prom is special enough you dont have to do anything else crazy, just ask her ASAP.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Does "will you go out with me?" actually work often? It seems wussy to me. If it does and I didn't try this simple thing, then I should kick myself because the girl I was going to ask out is taken and I doubt they'll break up soon, although it is a long distance thing. It burns my @$$ that a guy in another county beat me at a girl two miles away.
 

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Yeah, that's what I was thinking myself. I'm not too sure what to say. She'll say yes no matter what basically, but regardless I don't want to sound like some whimp.
 
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