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pete101

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i picked up with latina last weekend in a cafe. she was going back to her country in 10 days cos her uni applications were rejected so her visa was expiring. she was waiting on 1 last app and if that was rejected she'd book a flight home. anyway i text her on tues.

me: hola, hope u had a good night out on Sat & feeling better. fingers crossed about your last app decision. x
2mins later her: yes, fingers crossed! thank you :)
me: hopefully u get to stay then u can enjoy my company some more! ;) haha. we should meet up before u leave, it might be the last time we see each other.. cant let u miss out on that. :) how's tomorrow or thurs?
(no response) tonight her: hola! i have been accepted in the uni :) how are things with you?

i have to take this as attention seeking as she completely ignored my text to meet up not even acknowledging it. am i right in thinking she just wants to see if im still interested but not interested herself? should i reply with something like: 'that's good news. it must be because of me as your good luck charm. you should reward me for helping ;)'
i am aware that if she wanted to meet she would have suggested it, am i right?
 

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I personally don't believe in cutesy text messages if she isn't your girlfriend. They have their important place and it's not with a girl you barely know.

Offer to meet her for drinks or coffee. In fact tell her you are going to be at such-and-such bar or coffee shop and she should stop by to celebrate. Go there and have a good time with or without her.
 

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i see, so offer specific meet up time and place.

in my mind i feel i already offered, she didn't agree and follows up with the atypical attention seeking type message of 'how are you?' just to see if im still interested.

i get so many of these year on year i've become immune so my instinct is to assume attention seeking. however i still haven't learnt what's the best way to get her reinterested which i think is impossible. you just next and move on.

i think i'll consider sending something short congratulatory and be uninterested i.e. punish her for not responding or acknowledging my meet up text, make her work harder for my attention.
 

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With it being technically "early" in your relationship, I wouldn't look too much into it. It seems like you guys hit it off. I wouldn't go with the "reward me" idea. There's a chance she might see that as attention seeking. Just keep the same frame that she likes you and invite her out. Keep assuming the attraction until she blatantly tells you no.
 
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