"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I screwed up. Doubted her. What do I do?
- Thread starter jwei44
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Screw these girls man they're not worth freaking out over. Game girls who arent such drama queens.
Why are you worrying what the **** she thinks? You don't need to explain anything to her. In fact, if this was the online girl, you shouldnt have even cared what the hell she was doing anyway
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
- you have a sister named Stephanie.
- spawn3dbysulphur. Screenname.
- you went to New Trier Highschool, class of '00, which is on Winnetka Ave in Illinois -- thats probably where your family is.
-you work for 'The Navigators'
-You're from Irvine, CA. Perhaps Fremont.
- You answer things on Yahoo Answers.
- I know exactly where you're going to be from 7 to 10 Tomorrow Night. Tim Be Told, UCI.
I could find you - I know what you look like and where you'll be.
That's the internet for you.
Plus this girl isn't even friends with you on facebook, it seems. She lives in Madisonville, LA, right?
See how back this would be if I was a fvcking crazy killer or criminal?
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Ice882 said:I just found this out through a simple google search, Jonathan.
- you have a sister named Stephanie.
- spawn3dbysulphur. Screenname.
- you went to New Trier Highschool, class of '00, which is on Winnetka Ave in Illinois -- thats probably where your family is.
-you work for 'The Navigators'
-You're from Irvine, CA. Perhaps Fremont.
- You answer things on Yahoo Answers.
- I know exactly where you're going to be from 7 to 10 Tomorrow Night. Tim Be Told, UCI.
I could find you - I know what you look like and where you'll be
That's the internet for you.
Plus this girl isn't even friends with you on facebook, it seems. She lives in Madisonville, LA, right?
See how back this would be if I was a fvcking crazy killer or criminal?
Uhm. Like two or three of these are true. The others are some other Jonathan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.