"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I screwed this up already?
- Thread starter Cheeks
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Why don't you try calling her like a man and stop texting like a woman?
I don't know, seems creepy to follow up an unanswered text with a call. And it's a fact of life that girls simply don't pick up calls from random numbers.Malice said:Why don't you try calling her like a man and stop texting like a woman?
After giving it some more thought, I've decided I'm not even going to bother getting numbers anymore. I'll just go for an SNL if possible and then never talk to them again. Seems to be the only way to do it these days, with women becoming increasingly whorish and increasingly flaky.
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Great advice on here
I am in this same $hitty situation. I know I am getting better...but boy is it a terrible frustrating feeling.
1) The Last few months I have been turning it on when approaching women. (had a break up in July...took a bit to get over). I have gotten quite a few numbers but just like cheeks it didn't lead anywhere. But I haven't changed it up at all because I KNOW I am doing something right....just not good enough to close it.
2) The last chick actually responded and we had on an awesome first date. Seriously this chick is my perfect type. Our meet up for drinks lasted 4 hrs. I think I had the 2nd date lined up an hour in.
Second date comes and it's pretty quick....few days later. She is really excited about and I am also since this chick really seems like she had potential. We hit up a comedy club and things go well...or so I thought. At the end of the night we kiss and talk about the next time we will go out. She seemed very receptive, she was heading out of town for a week so I said I will call her when she got back.
My dumb$hit self sent a TXT a few days later before she left to say have a good time. Never got a response from that.....so I knew I might have F'ed up by being a panzy.
5-6 days later and a few days after she got back from her trip I called her up. (She made it a point in the first few dates she prefers calls, and I hate the damn phone so that is a big step for me) Straight to voicemail. So it's Game over...and I won't send anything else. It's just so god damn frustrating that me and this chick had such an awesome time, well I thought we did and she doesn't even have the balls to say she is not interested. I mean flaking before the first date...ya np, flaking before second date...sure it happens, flaking before the third date without a peep? FRUSTRATING!
Before anyone said one-itis...the issue is that finding good women is getting tougher and tougher and when a chick that really hits it on all cylinders (Looks, Very Cool, Interests, Chemistry, never married) you get a little caught up.
So long story short...Cheeks...take Die Hards advice...and we just eat the ****ty feelings we get and move on.
One more side note. I know this should not matter but chicks always seem to reel off a bit when I say I don't own a car. Hell I make plenty of money and live in the heart of the city. Why the hell would I want a car if I were to use it 2-3 times a month? It just seems chicks think no car = loser. What do you guys think about this?
I am in this same $hitty situation. I know I am getting better...but boy is it a terrible frustrating feeling.
1) The Last few months I have been turning it on when approaching women. (had a break up in July...took a bit to get over). I have gotten quite a few numbers but just like cheeks it didn't lead anywhere. But I haven't changed it up at all because I KNOW I am doing something right....just not good enough to close it.
2) The last chick actually responded and we had on an awesome first date. Seriously this chick is my perfect type. Our meet up for drinks lasted 4 hrs. I think I had the 2nd date lined up an hour in.
Second date comes and it's pretty quick....few days later. She is really excited about and I am also since this chick really seems like she had potential. We hit up a comedy club and things go well...or so I thought. At the end of the night we kiss and talk about the next time we will go out. She seemed very receptive, she was heading out of town for a week so I said I will call her when she got back.
My dumb$hit self sent a TXT a few days later before she left to say have a good time. Never got a response from that.....so I knew I might have F'ed up by being a panzy.
5-6 days later and a few days after she got back from her trip I called her up. (She made it a point in the first few dates she prefers calls, and I hate the damn phone so that is a big step for me) Straight to voicemail. So it's Game over...and I won't send anything else. It's just so god damn frustrating that me and this chick had such an awesome time, well I thought we did and she doesn't even have the balls to say she is not interested. I mean flaking before the first date...ya np, flaking before second date...sure it happens, flaking before the third date without a peep? FRUSTRATING!
Before anyone said one-itis...the issue is that finding good women is getting tougher and tougher and when a chick that really hits it on all cylinders (Looks, Very Cool, Interests, Chemistry, never married) you get a little caught up.
So long story short...Cheeks...take Die Hards advice...and we just eat the ****ty feelings we get and move on.
One more side note. I know this should not matter but chicks always seem to reel off a bit when I say I don't own a car. Hell I make plenty of money and live in the heart of the city. Why the hell would I want a car if I were to use it 2-3 times a month? It just seems chicks think no car = loser. What do you guys think about this?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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gradhodude said:I am in this same $hitty situation. I know I am getting better...but boy is it a terrible frustrating feeling.
1) The Last few months I have been turning it on when approaching women. (had a break up in July...took a bit to get over). I have gotten quite a few numbers but just like cheeks it didn't lead anywhere. But I haven't changed it up at all because I KNOW I am doing something right....just not good enough to close it.
2) The last chick actually responded and we had on an awesome first date. Seriously this chick is my perfect type. Our meet up for drinks lasted 4 hrs. I think I had the 2nd date lined up an hour in.
Second date comes and it's pretty quick....few days later. She is really excited about and I am also since this chick really seems like she had potential. We hit up a comedy club and things go well...or so I thought. At the end of the night we kiss and talk about the next time we will go out. She seemed very receptive, she was heading out of town for a week so I said I will call her when she got back.
My dumb$hit self sent a TXT a few days later before she left to say have a good time. Never got a response from that.....so I knew I might have F'ed up by being a panzy.
5-6 days later and a few days after she got back from her trip I called her up. (She made it a point in the first few dates she prefers calls, and I hate the damn phone so that is a big step for me) Straight to voicemail. So it's Game over...and I won't send anything else. It's just so god damn frustrating that me and this chick had such an awesome time, well I thought we did and she doesn't even have the balls to say she is not interested. I mean flaking before the first date...ya np, flaking before second date...sure it happens, flaking before the third date without a peep? FRUSTRATING!
Before anyone said one-itis...the issue is that finding good women is getting tougher and tougher and when a chick that really hits it on all cylinders (Looks, Very Cool, Interests, Chemistry, never married) you get a little caught up.
So long story short...Cheeks...take Die Hards advice...and we just eat the ****ty feelings we get and move on.
One more side note. I know this should not matter but chicks always seem to reel off a bit when I say I don't own a car. Hell I make plenty of money and live in the heart of the city. Why the hell would I want a car if I were to use it 2-3 times a month? It just seems chicks think no car = loser. What do you guys think about this?
Then don't tell the b!tches you don't own a car. Tell them you have a car but never use it.
Stop meeting girls out at night. The next day (if you didn't f*ck her that night) they nearly all get cold feet because she isn't in the same state she was in when she was drunk and social. It just makes things more difficult because of the situation. If you NEED to have a drink to meet chicks try to bounce with them THE SAME NIGHT