"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I screwed this up already?
- Thread starter Cheeks
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Why don't you try calling her like a man and stop texting like a woman?
I don't know, seems creepy to follow up an unanswered text with a call. And it's a fact of life that girls simply don't pick up calls from random numbers.Malice said:Why don't you try calling her like a man and stop texting like a woman?
After giving it some more thought, I've decided I'm not even going to bother getting numbers anymore. I'll just go for an SNL if possible and then never talk to them again. Seems to be the only way to do it these days, with women becoming increasingly whorish and increasingly flaky.
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Great advice on here
I am in this same $hitty situation. I know I am getting better...but boy is it a terrible frustrating feeling.
1) The Last few months I have been turning it on when approaching women. (had a break up in July...took a bit to get over). I have gotten quite a few numbers but just like cheeks it didn't lead anywhere. But I haven't changed it up at all because I KNOW I am doing something right....just not good enough to close it.
2) The last chick actually responded and we had on an awesome first date. Seriously this chick is my perfect type. Our meet up for drinks lasted 4 hrs. I think I had the 2nd date lined up an hour in.
Second date comes and it's pretty quick....few days later. She is really excited about and I am also since this chick really seems like she had potential. We hit up a comedy club and things go well...or so I thought. At the end of the night we kiss and talk about the next time we will go out. She seemed very receptive, she was heading out of town for a week so I said I will call her when she got back.
My dumb$hit self sent a TXT a few days later before she left to say have a good time. Never got a response from that.....so I knew I might have F'ed up by being a panzy.
5-6 days later and a few days after she got back from her trip I called her up. (She made it a point in the first few dates she prefers calls, and I hate the damn phone so that is a big step for me) Straight to voicemail. So it's Game over...and I won't send anything else. It's just so god damn frustrating that me and this chick had such an awesome time, well I thought we did and she doesn't even have the balls to say she is not interested. I mean flaking before the first date...ya np, flaking before second date...sure it happens, flaking before the third date without a peep? FRUSTRATING!
Before anyone said one-itis...the issue is that finding good women is getting tougher and tougher and when a chick that really hits it on all cylinders (Looks, Very Cool, Interests, Chemistry, never married) you get a little caught up.
So long story short...Cheeks...take Die Hards advice...and we just eat the ****ty feelings we get and move on.
One more side note. I know this should not matter but chicks always seem to reel off a bit when I say I don't own a car. Hell I make plenty of money and live in the heart of the city. Why the hell would I want a car if I were to use it 2-3 times a month? It just seems chicks think no car = loser. What do you guys think about this?
I am in this same $hitty situation. I know I am getting better...but boy is it a terrible frustrating feeling.
1) The Last few months I have been turning it on when approaching women. (had a break up in July...took a bit to get over). I have gotten quite a few numbers but just like cheeks it didn't lead anywhere. But I haven't changed it up at all because I KNOW I am doing something right....just not good enough to close it.
2) The last chick actually responded and we had on an awesome first date. Seriously this chick is my perfect type. Our meet up for drinks lasted 4 hrs. I think I had the 2nd date lined up an hour in.
Second date comes and it's pretty quick....few days later. She is really excited about and I am also since this chick really seems like she had potential. We hit up a comedy club and things go well...or so I thought. At the end of the night we kiss and talk about the next time we will go out. She seemed very receptive, she was heading out of town for a week so I said I will call her when she got back.
My dumb$hit self sent a TXT a few days later before she left to say have a good time. Never got a response from that.....so I knew I might have F'ed up by being a panzy.
5-6 days later and a few days after she got back from her trip I called her up. (She made it a point in the first few dates she prefers calls, and I hate the damn phone so that is a big step for me) Straight to voicemail. So it's Game over...and I won't send anything else. It's just so god damn frustrating that me and this chick had such an awesome time, well I thought we did and she doesn't even have the balls to say she is not interested. I mean flaking before the first date...ya np, flaking before second date...sure it happens, flaking before the third date without a peep? FRUSTRATING!
Before anyone said one-itis...the issue is that finding good women is getting tougher and tougher and when a chick that really hits it on all cylinders (Looks, Very Cool, Interests, Chemistry, never married) you get a little caught up.
So long story short...Cheeks...take Die Hards advice...and we just eat the ****ty feelings we get and move on.
One more side note. I know this should not matter but chicks always seem to reel off a bit when I say I don't own a car. Hell I make plenty of money and live in the heart of the city. Why the hell would I want a car if I were to use it 2-3 times a month? It just seems chicks think no car = loser. What do you guys think about this?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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gradhodude said:I am in this same $hitty situation. I know I am getting better...but boy is it a terrible frustrating feeling.
1) The Last few months I have been turning it on when approaching women. (had a break up in July...took a bit to get over). I have gotten quite a few numbers but just like cheeks it didn't lead anywhere. But I haven't changed it up at all because I KNOW I am doing something right....just not good enough to close it.
2) The last chick actually responded and we had on an awesome first date. Seriously this chick is my perfect type. Our meet up for drinks lasted 4 hrs. I think I had the 2nd date lined up an hour in.
Second date comes and it's pretty quick....few days later. She is really excited about and I am also since this chick really seems like she had potential. We hit up a comedy club and things go well...or so I thought. At the end of the night we kiss and talk about the next time we will go out. She seemed very receptive, she was heading out of town for a week so I said I will call her when she got back.
My dumb$hit self sent a TXT a few days later before she left to say have a good time. Never got a response from that.....so I knew I might have F'ed up by being a panzy.
5-6 days later and a few days after she got back from her trip I called her up. (She made it a point in the first few dates she prefers calls, and I hate the damn phone so that is a big step for me) Straight to voicemail. So it's Game over...and I won't send anything else. It's just so god damn frustrating that me and this chick had such an awesome time, well I thought we did and she doesn't even have the balls to say she is not interested. I mean flaking before the first date...ya np, flaking before second date...sure it happens, flaking before the third date without a peep? FRUSTRATING!
Before anyone said one-itis...the issue is that finding good women is getting tougher and tougher and when a chick that really hits it on all cylinders (Looks, Very Cool, Interests, Chemistry, never married) you get a little caught up.
So long story short...Cheeks...take Die Hards advice...and we just eat the ****ty feelings we get and move on.
One more side note. I know this should not matter but chicks always seem to reel off a bit when I say I don't own a car. Hell I make plenty of money and live in the heart of the city. Why the hell would I want a car if I were to use it 2-3 times a month? It just seems chicks think no car = loser. What do you guys think about this?
Then don't tell the b!tches you don't own a car. Tell them you have a car but never use it.
Stop meeting girls out at night. The next day (if you didn't f*ck her that night) they nearly all get cold feet because she isn't in the same state she was in when she was drunk and social. It just makes things more difficult because of the situation. If you NEED to have a drink to meet chicks try to bounce with them THE SAME NIGHT