So I saw her yesterday at the local party, we kinda share social circle so I knew that I will see her at some point, I am in Nc since december and was doing pretty decent, I started training, meditation, focusing on college and going out with friends, I didnt check her social media in about month, but when I saw her yesterday I got some weird tension in me, we didnt speak at all, and she felt like stranger, problem is I think like my progress us ruined by ****ty thing and spent rest of the night thinking abouit it and now I am writing here, so yea.. any tips how to give less **** or be less affected by her presence?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I saw ex yesterday
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Been there. It's hard I knoww. But have faith in the fact that time heals all. It really does. Stay focused and keep getting better. You'll meet girls that you thought were way above you league but in reality it's just you getting better. When you get there, you can laugh off this small phase that you are going through. Remember to be an alpha my man. That's why we are here
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Oh yeah man. Keep her out of sight, out of mind. It's not uncommon to feel that way when seeing an ex. The truth is, they feel the same way. I seen an ex from mid last that f****d me over real good. I still felt the tension. I ended up making out with another chick at the bar and watch her leave flipping me off. Even though I had the perceived "upper hand" I still didn't feel right for days. It will pass man just keep self-improving, but do it for yourself and not for anyone else.
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Isn't that the whole point.... Catching some feelings is normal and OK... but keep moving...
Soldier on...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.