So I saw her yesterday at the local party, we kinda share social circle so I knew that I will see her at some point, I am in Nc since december and was doing pretty decent, I started training, meditation, focusing on college and going out with friends, I didnt check her social media in about month, but when I saw her yesterday I got some weird tension in me, we didnt speak at all, and she felt like stranger, problem is I think like my progress us ruined by ****ty thing and spent rest of the night thinking abouit it and now I am writing here, so yea.. any tips how to give less **** or be less affected by her presence?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I saw ex yesterday
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Been there. It's hard I knoww. But have faith in the fact that time heals all. It really does. Stay focused and keep getting better. You'll meet girls that you thought were way above you league but in reality it's just you getting better. When you get there, you can laugh off this small phase that you are going through. Remember to be an alpha my man. That's why we are here
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Oh yeah man. Keep her out of sight, out of mind. It's not uncommon to feel that way when seeing an ex. The truth is, they feel the same way. I seen an ex from mid last that f****d me over real good. I still felt the tension. I ended up making out with another chick at the bar and watch her leave flipping me off. Even though I had the perceived "upper hand" I still didn't feel right for days. It will pass man just keep self-improving, but do it for yourself and not for anyone else.
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Isn't that the whole point.... Catching some feelings is normal and OK... but keep moving...
Soldier on...
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.