"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I really need help here guys

Deltoid

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I have a little problem with this girl at school. I leave school the time she comes in and she comes in pretty late so I see her walking to school quickly. Now I want to ask her out on a date, but I don't think it would seem appropriate to ask her then and there as she's rushing to school and we only exchange a quick hi and bye when we pass eachother (me going down the hill, her going up the hill)

Besides, if we were to go on a date, any sugestions of a good first date to get to know her?
On previous dates, movies didn't lets us find out about each other too well.

Any help would be apreciated.

Thanks :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Brian20o2

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best places ive heard of are small little cafes
you can get a cup of coffe or a beagle (who eats those?)
it shouldnt be expensive (eg 3$ for a cup of coffe, 7$ for a movie)

thats just my 2 cents
 

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hey i used to post here when i was in high school. im going into my 2nd year of college now.... usually in high school, i did movies. here are my 2 most successful dates...

right after i graduated highschool: took the girl out to dinner, and then saw a movie...

why that worked so well is , i got to know her while i ate, and when i saw the movie, i put my arm around her.
i even kissed her after i dropped her off at her house at the end of the date.
**just a movie isnt good cuz u cant get to know the girl**


#1 best date: 1st year in college... (this girl is my gf now) - took her on a walk at the beach, took her out to dinner, and took her to see a movie, and went back to her dorm to hang out. (yeah unfortunately we just 'hung out')
 
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Haha, a beagle?! I think its bagle, man. A beagle is a small dog. :p
Just find a good opportunity, I'm sure one will come up, and just be confident don't fidget around, and be casual. Really just go skating or play put-put or just hang out for a first date, use your imagination and search the forum
 

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Yeah, "getting food' is always a good way to get to know the girl :p
Then with a movie after, you can chill more comfortably. :)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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first off, you guys are both stupid, it's bagel.

but to help you out, try one of the street pick-up suggestions in the bible or the articles on the main page.
As far as places for a date, there's a post somewhere in the high school forum about date ideas.

Check it out and good luck.
 

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What do you call a sea-gull that flies over the bay?

A bay-gull. HAHAHAHAHA

Man, I think walking through the park is a good enough date. lol. But then, I am cheap. Books a million has a coffee shop where I live and that might work out. I would try and get a convo going before I asked her on a date. So she will be sure that she wants to go on a date and she will actually be excited about it.
 

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nothing like a good bagle joke :confused: hahaha just do as the others said if a movie something else as well so you actually get a chance to work some of your moves. Keep at it
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by 08aisaac
Man, I think walking through the park is a good enough date. lol. But then, I am cheap.
My favourite date too. The great thing about a walk, is it'll be during the day so you can extend or reduce the time of the date as you feel.
 

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lern to spel
 

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Originally posted by 08aisaac
What do you call a sea-gull that flies over the bay?

A bay-gull. HAHAHAHAHA
haha aaron i just burst out laughing after i read that and my moms like whats so funny and she read it and looked at me and walked off confused.

hahahahahahahhaha.
 

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not funny
 

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Originally posted by 08aisaac
What do you call a sea-gull that flies over the bay?

A bay-gull. HAHAHAHAHA

:crackup:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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One thing that worries me is. Wouldn't it be inconvinient for me to try talking to her that way? I mean she's on her way to school and since I'm comming out, she's most likely going to be late. Me talking to her will be halting her and making her later to school. Should I wait for her to get out school or what? I can't initiate in a long convo that way. I'll have to get her number quick, and that seems hassleful because I don't talk to her much.

Help would be appreciated, Thanks in advance.
 
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