"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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i really dont care anymore

dannowillbookem

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its not in a negative way. i just dont see the sense of living like this, trying to be as sexy as you can and as charming as you can. i went through this phase and i suppose it basically gave me my personality (for which i thank all the juanfathers here) but ive read ernest hemingways "the sun also rises" and i've realized that we all focus on this crap that doesnt get you anywhere and doesnt help you. go ahead sleep with a bunch of girls, dont let me stop you. but dont expect to be satisfied. dont expect to be living fully. i like sex. its fun. i like girls. theyre fun. but i have taken on the creed of a hemingway code hero:

  • he enjoys all sensous appetites: fine women, wine, smokes and food
  • he has a fear of death but is not afraid of death
  • although winning is not possible, defeat must not be accepted
  • when in the face of death is when you live most intensely
  • he is always courageous
  • he does not go where he is not wanted. there are enough people in the world who will like him.
  • he does not criticize others. he only puts them in perspectives of "irony" and "pity"

and please, dont spend your greatest years striving for things that arent there. having drinks and songs with the boys can be just as enjoyable as getting laid. and dont be a workout addict. enjoy the time you have.

-danno
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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originaldj

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I dunno, I think your post has some merit but you still gotta balance everything out and when you do girls matter quite a bit in my opinion
 

DrDiesel07

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You make it sound like we're all wasting away our lives chasing women. If you follow the advice on this board then this is exactly what you shouldn't be doing and is what the board helps to advise against. Without this board I would have expended a lot more time and effort trying to figure out how to get women and spending more time on them. Instead I took what I found to be the main message of this board - Work on yourself and make yourself what you want to be and the women will come naturally. All you need is a life that makes you happy and some social skills and women won't even be a problem.

To be fair, you do kind of state this in your Hemingway hero code.
 

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If you take the DJ practices to ALL aspects of your life, you will go places, it will help you, you will be happy.


However, being happy doesn't mean you are satisfied. You should NEVER be satisfied with where you're at. That's when complacency sets in. That's when you stop improving.
 

dannowillbookem

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two things.

  • my message,i suppose, was aimed more at the people who seem to obsess over impressing others and women. i think i may finally be satisfied with daily life and its not by following everything on this board. its by finding myself. i dont workout or eat healthy. why? this is not me. and i certainly dont try to sleep with lots of women. this is also not me. find your own way.
  • dont let the board and rules decide who you are. i think youd be happier as a loser as opposed to working out and partying and sexing every girl you see.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Steg

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True but going by another set of codes is hardly better :p ,j/k.

Good stuff but #3 I cant live with. Sometimes you lose sometimes you win. If you set out to squeeze blood out of rocks yuu'r gonna be in for a long wait...

Sure in the future there might be technology to do it but it's a giant waste of time (not being sarcastic just saying somethings just arent worth more than 1 shot).
 
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