"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i really dont care anymore

dannowillbookem

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its not in a negative way. i just dont see the sense of living like this, trying to be as sexy as you can and as charming as you can. i went through this phase and i suppose it basically gave me my personality (for which i thank all the juanfathers here) but ive read ernest hemingways "the sun also rises" and i've realized that we all focus on this crap that doesnt get you anywhere and doesnt help you. go ahead sleep with a bunch of girls, dont let me stop you. but dont expect to be satisfied. dont expect to be living fully. i like sex. its fun. i like girls. theyre fun. but i have taken on the creed of a hemingway code hero:

  • he enjoys all sensous appetites: fine women, wine, smokes and food
  • he has a fear of death but is not afraid of death
  • although winning is not possible, defeat must not be accepted
  • when in the face of death is when you live most intensely
  • he is always courageous
  • he does not go where he is not wanted. there are enough people in the world who will like him.
  • he does not criticize others. he only puts them in perspectives of "irony" and "pity"

and please, dont spend your greatest years striving for things that arent there. having drinks and songs with the boys can be just as enjoyable as getting laid. and dont be a workout addict. enjoy the time you have.

-danno
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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originaldj

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I dunno, I think your post has some merit but you still gotta balance everything out and when you do girls matter quite a bit in my opinion
 

DrDiesel07

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You make it sound like we're all wasting away our lives chasing women. If you follow the advice on this board then this is exactly what you shouldn't be doing and is what the board helps to advise against. Without this board I would have expended a lot more time and effort trying to figure out how to get women and spending more time on them. Instead I took what I found to be the main message of this board - Work on yourself and make yourself what you want to be and the women will come naturally. All you need is a life that makes you happy and some social skills and women won't even be a problem.

To be fair, you do kind of state this in your Hemingway hero code.
 

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If you take the DJ practices to ALL aspects of your life, you will go places, it will help you, you will be happy.


However, being happy doesn't mean you are satisfied. You should NEVER be satisfied with where you're at. That's when complacency sets in. That's when you stop improving.
 

dannowillbookem

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two things.

  • my message,i suppose, was aimed more at the people who seem to obsess over impressing others and women. i think i may finally be satisfied with daily life and its not by following everything on this board. its by finding myself. i dont workout or eat healthy. why? this is not me. and i certainly dont try to sleep with lots of women. this is also not me. find your own way.
  • dont let the board and rules decide who you are. i think youd be happier as a loser as opposed to working out and partying and sexing every girl you see.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Steg

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True but going by another set of codes is hardly better :p ,j/k.

Good stuff but #3 I cant live with. Sometimes you lose sometimes you win. If you set out to squeeze blood out of rocks yuu'r gonna be in for a long wait...

Sure in the future there might be technology to do it but it's a giant waste of time (not being sarcastic just saying somethings just arent worth more than 1 shot).
 
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