I realize what has to happen...

[DonJuan11]

Well,my main problem(s),have been I am generally unhappy in/with life,I feel behind in many aspects,loneliness,not much of a social life,and not having sex as much as I'd like,or any at all even. And that going on for long periods of time. Even feeling unatractive.

I am 23.

You are unhappy because your parents pay for everything, your clothes, your car, your rent, everything.

Move out, get a job, and start paying for yourself.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

no,I am unhappy for feeling behind in life,educationally,I guess socially,and a big void due to sexual inexperience,and not having had normal experiences when I was younger.

 

[horaholic]

You are unhappy because you CHOOSE to be.
Period.
End of fvcking story.
No fvcking excuses.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

well,maybe. I don't have the answers. Maybe it's beyond my control.

 

[horaholic]

well,maybe. I don't have the answers. Maybe it's beyond my control.

"I realize what needs to be done."

This is the title to YOUR thread. You left out the other half of the statement. "...but I refuse to even try."

You have ALL OF THE ANSWERS. And it IS WELL WITHIN YOUR CONTROL. This is the ONLY thing in life you have any control over.

You have CHOSEN to be miserable. You have CHOSEN to blow off the therapist idea. You have CHOSEN to blow off the working out idea. Heres a link for you. You can CHOOSE to do this to make yourself look and feel better RIGHT NOW, for FREE! click here
I've been doing this for the last few days, as I am on unemployment, too lazy to go to a gym, and really need exercize. I already feel better. I cant do it three times yet though. It takes less than five minutes. Try it and post back.

 

[Rhoto]

no,I am unhappy for feeling behind in life,educationally,I guess socially,and a big void due to sexual inexperience,and not having had normal experiences when I was younger.

You sound pretty fvcking pathetic. Let me get this staight, you're a loser, an uneducated moron, and you think that because of a lack of "normalcy" in your childhood (having a girlfriend ), you feel unhappy.

YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN DAMN LIFE.

For every one else - You possess all the ability to shift your life and change your operational grind of your life. The only thing holding you back, is fear. The fear to act. Accept this fear, let it empower you. When a man fears nothing, then anything is possible for him, no matter what the challenge.

"Maybe its beyond my control"

If you feel that way, take a long walk off a short ledge. If you live, then there is some unfulfilled purpose to your life that you have yet to realize. If not, then one less person. People like you make me happy, less legitimate competition.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

SO then what's the message? I lack discipline? It's never too late? Even this guy can do it?

I mean,I look at this: http://boston.craigslist.org/gbs/cas/999948896.html

and this: http://boston.craigslist.org/gbs/cas/993878385.html

or this: http://boston.craigslist.org/gbs/cas/993795799.html

or this: http://boston.craigslist.org/sob/cas/991750063.html

and I feel so inferior,behind,worthless. How can I keep up? How will I be judged? am I doomed to feel this way forerver while everyone is so happy and successful and sexually attractive etc?

 

[Rhoto]

Your "keep up" mentality is keeping you back.

Stop comparing your life with others. Instead set goals for yourself; small achievable goals that will slowly build your confidence.

Stop thinking that you need to fit a certain mold to be attractive or successful. The more diverse your life is, the more enriching it will be.

Find a creative outlet for your mind. (Art, photography, poetry, reading, short stories, studying theoretical physics...etc)

Find a positive outlet for your body. (Work out, Running, Hiking, Biking, Martial Arts)

Find a purpose to your life. (Meditation helped me)

No stop posting, and starting thinking about how you want your life to be.

 

[horaholic]

You might as well answer those ads, cuz you are nothing but a vagina.

 

[DonJuan11]

no,I am unhappy for feeling behind in life,educationally,I guess socially,and a big void due to sexual inexperience,and not having had normal experiences when I was younger.

Stop living off your parents and start paying for yourself. You are 23. You have to get a job now and not have them pay for your clothes and CDs.

 

[cw92]

is he a troll? seems like one to me, at least for my 2 months of being on sosuave

 

[rushing dude 123]

its easy to say what u realize has to happen but to do it is another thing. If u want help don't post till u take some action.u will b in this cycle of thought forever the only way u will realize whats wrong is when u get out there and u **** UP. U cant judge results when u have hardly no bad or good results to begin with.

 

[Warrior74]

stop being a scared little pvssy boy and get out there and do something. until you do you are and will continue to be a sad pathetic little douchebag woring for attention on the internet. So here's a big 1fvck you1 for you until you decide to stand up and be a man. Stop whining like a woman at a sewing bee and do something like a man.

As for feeling left behind. this is the last thing you need to read on that.

“The best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The second best time is now.”

Do something about it now or go kill yourself.

 

[Vypros]

You seem like someone who needs to be told what to do, and then needs someone to crack the fvck down on you if you don't do it.

So, here's my proposition to you. IF you are not a troll, and you are seriously wanting to change your life, then I'm willing to offer my assistance to you personall to help get you started.

What this would entail is for you to make a declaration that you will do what it takes to change, and then, on a daily (to semi-daily) basis I will give you instructions on things to do in that day.

But I warn you, if you don't do them then I'm not going to bother. I'll give you a three strike rule. For each day you don't do what I tell you to do, you get a strike. ON the third strike I walk away and you can go at it alone. I'm willing to do this only if you are willing to put forth the effort.

I'm not a hard ass, but I am going to challenge you, so be warned.

If you are willing to do this, then make a thread and I'll give you your first set of instructions. No, I'm not going to answer one of 3000 questions you probably have. I'm asking you to put your faith in me and in the fact that after doing the things I tell you to do, you'll improve your attitudes and your situations drastically.

Let me know. My offer is on the table if you are truly will to learn how to help yourself (I'm not going to help you, I'm going to help you help yourself).

What do you have to lose?

 

[Warrior74]

You seem like someone who needs to be told what to do, and then needs someone to crack the fvck down on you if you don't do it.

So, here's my proposition to you. IF you are not a troll, and you are seriously wanting to change your life, then I'm willing to offer my assistance to you personall to help get you started.

What this would entail is for you to make a declaration that you will do what it takes to change, and then, on a daily (to semi-daily) basis I will give you instructions on things to do in that day.

But I warn you, if you don't do them then I'm not going to bother. I'll give you a three strike rule. For each day you don't do what I tell you to do, you get a strike. ON the third strike I walk away and you can go at it alone. I'm willing to do this only if you are willing to put forth the effort.

I'm not a hard ass, but I am going to challenge you, so be warned.

If you are willing to do this, then make a thread and I'll give you your first set of instructions. No, I'm not going to answer one of 3000 questions you probably have. I'm asking you to put your faith in me and in the fact that after doing the things I tell you to do, you'll improve your attitudes and your situations drastically.

Let me know. My offer is on the table if you are truly will to learn how to help yourself (I'm not going to help you, I'm going to help you help yourself).

What do you have to lose?

I bet you he won't do it. I made a offer just like yours only to be met with more whining and moaning. He wants attention, not change. If he wants change bad enough he will do something about it. Right now he just wants to have a cry about it. I'm mad at myself for even posting in this guys thread.

 

[Solomon]

SO then what's the message? I lack discipline? It's never too late? Even this guy can do it?

I mean,I look at this: http://boston.craigslist.org/gbs/cas/999948896.html

and this: http://boston.craigslist.org/gbs/cas/993878385.html

or this: http://boston.craigslist.org/gbs/cas/993795799.html

or this: http://boston.craigslist.org/sob/cas/991750063.html

and I feel so inferior,behind,worthless. How can I keep up? How will I be judged? am I doomed to feel this way forerver while everyone is so happy and successful and sexually attractive etc?

man ROFL

i wasn't ready for that!!!

Thank GOd I wasn't at work

lol @ that smut

 

[CapedCrusader08]

maybe I really don't want help,and only think I do. I am a myriad of emotions. I am so used to feeling this way,that I don't know anything else. Maybe I was just not meant to be happy or the person I want to be. Maybe this is something I really don't care about enough,or I am just not good enough for the world. I have spent my whole life,or the past few years at least,feeling more like an observer rather than participator. As in I am on the out looking in. All the parties,people,freinds,etc. It's just not in the cards for me I guess. Or maybe it's an identity crisis,or a lack of talent/passion(s).

 

[cw92]

definately a troll

 

[CapedCrusader08]

No,I'm not a troll. I found this site,and became overwhelmed by the knowledge on here. I want(ed) to get better,but I can't find it within me. I am not the person I would like to be,what you call that,I don't know. Identity crisis? Plus,the feeling of being lesser than others,behind,on the bottom,etc. An outcast,loner,however you want to put it.

 

[cw92]

since ive been here all Ive seen is people giving some of the best advice Ive ever read in my life, you ignore it and post more crap, no offense dude but that screams troll to me.

and please dont respond with any of that identity crisis crap I cannot help you, all i see is people working WAY to hard. Its like u post the same **** over and over and over and over..

please read the amazing advice given to you, and REPLY TO THAT, not me calling u a troll!!